166 In Life

I was 19…

This will be a sappy love post. I don’t think I’ve ever written one  before.This could potentially take all night. . . or all year. I’ve had a wonderful time pouring through both of our old journals. And I have absolutely racked my brain to remember what details I can of our early years of dating. It’s been 11 years and I’ve lost a lot of sleep since then.  But this is what I can remember of the beginning of it…

I was nineteen-years-old, it was the first day of classes my sophomore  year of college when I found myself standing in line at Auburn’s Haley Center bookstore. There I was with both arms full of books and lo and behold who.was.this.in.line.in.front.of.me? I’m sure in my mind I thought, “Hello, I love you, won’t you tell me your name?” Fortunately I didn’t say it {or sing it} and by the time I regained composure and thanked the Lord for putting me in line behind him {whoever he was}, I noticed he was wearing a sorority  t-shirt, my sorority’s  t-shirt. This could be good-  something to talk about. Or this could be bad- perhaps he’s dating a sorority sister. Thankfully the shirt route started a conversation  {even though the bad route was the reality} and really wish I could remember what was said to start the conversation. It was a navy blue t-shirt with a stained glass carnation on the back,  sounds atrocious doesn’t it? The good thing was, he wasn’t atrocious and I might have taken notice of this. We made small talk while moving through the line and I asked him what books he was buying, “archaeology books,” he said. Being the very intelligent student that I was, I confidently replied, “Oh the study of rocks!” He said, “No, that’s geology,” and went on to explain what archaeology was the study of {which 11 years later, I’m still not sure}.  The cashier was far too efficient and the next thing I knew he was done checking out and off he went with his books. I checked out with mine and went back to my dorm room.  Over the next eight months I would occasionally bump into the bookstore boy and was always really glad to see him. He had the bluest eyes I’d ever seen and really BIG blond curly hair. {exhibit A above}

Now, looking back, I’m confident that the Lord, a wonderful orchestrator of all things, had His perfect timing in mind as to why we didn’t begin to see each other and date until almost eight months later. We both had recently come out of relationships that left us both rather wounded.  If I was honest with myself, I was in no position to pursue a relationship with anyone. I dated someone my freshman year and the dissolving of our relationship left me very confused about a lot of things.  In the ex-boyfriend’s defense, because he is a great Christian guy, I think he thought our relationship was “casual” but really I don’t think there’s such thing as “casually dating” to a woman. At the end of my freshman year I sadly and foolishly thought that there was one thing that I could fully control in my life and that was what I ate and how I exercised.  So for many months I was completely consumed with myself. I was skinny and yet still not satisfied. The Lord, with his great mercy, never left me or forsake me during this season of my life and I came out of it realizing that there is nothing on this earth that can satisfy a human heart like Christ, no boyfriend, not even a husband, and certainly not a body image. Sharing all of  this on the blog makes me nervous… but this is life and my hope is that it will in someway encourage someone!

So… spring semester rolled around and I still occasionally would run into this very attractive guy and thankfully my heart {and body} had healed by leaps and bounds. One evening in late spring he just so happened to be sitting behind me at the SGA election debates {which is funny because neither of us were involved in the SGA} and we chatted again for the first time since we met in the bookstore months ago.  My goodness, I was a little giddy over him. I came back to my dorm and was somehow convinced to call him and invite him to an upcoming “Famous Duos” date party. I networked my way through people from his hometown until I finally got his number, asking along the way what they could tell me about him, thankfully they shared everything I wanted to hear. By the time I finally got up with him on the phone he said, “yes” to the date party.  By the way, he assures me, that if I hadn’t asked him out first, he was going to ask me out. {Whew! And my girls will not be able to ask boys out like their mom did! :)} We went as Superman & Lois Lane… I wish I had a picture. I have friends who still call him Superman. We chatted about mission trips, mutual friends, and then went to the Supper Club {one of Auburn’s classiest spots} for a band party and danced our booties off. We did lunch a few times after that, and Erika came along with us. I really think he thought we were a pair, like it was a packaged deal. I am cracking up right now… we really are a pair.  We found ourselves alone one night in my friend’s blue convertible Bronco that was parked in front of my dorm… this sounds like it’s going to get x-rated… don’t worry, it doesn’t. We had a very comfortable and mutual DTR {that’s define the relationship… do they use that acronym still?}. He was so confident and mature and I love that we had our DTR before he ever kissed me…  but I don’t give him too much credit he didn’t wait long after that!  And the rest is history… or perhaps the rest will be part 2.

As I think about our early months of getting to know each other,  Romans 12:12: “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer” continues to come to my mind.

And now that I’ve written all of this I may need to tape it on my bathroom mirror so it’s handy when he ticks me off… believe it or not, he’s really good at that. Or maybe I should just tape this picture up. Or maybe both and they’ll serve as his “get out of jail free” card! 🙂


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  • Stephanie
    October 27, 2010 at 9:58 pm

    I love your posts! What an entertaining post. God Bless you two. My husband and I have been together since 16! OK, a break for a bit. 🙂 But he is my soulmate. And my twin is also the package deal! 🙂

  • Jen
    October 27, 2010 at 10:07 pm

    Hi, Darby! I love your blog. First time commenting … Cutie Patootie husband you have there. I need a popcorn machine and part 2. I’m commenting mostly to thank you for your honesty and stand beside you as someone who also struggled with control in regards to food/exercise. My battle unfortunately continued into adulthood, but, very long story later, I am free … chains are gone. Praise God!

  • Danielle
    October 27, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    I thought this post was great! I always admire how open you are and I loved the trip down memory lane! Can’t wait for part 2!

  • Dianne
    October 27, 2010 at 10:22 pm

    A match made in heaven!!!! The best kind. 🙂
    Darby, the wedding is in 8 days…please remember us in your prayers.Our early emails have remained a source of comfort.
    xoxo Dianne

  • Dianne
    October 27, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    A match made in heaven!!!! The best kind. 🙂
    Darby, the wedding is in 8 days…please remember my family in your prayers. Our early emails have remained a source of comfort to me.
    xoxo Dianne

  • allison
    October 27, 2010 at 10:43 pm

    You look just the same today!! You do have a Hot Hubby!

  • Jules
    October 27, 2010 at 10:44 pm

    Sigh. I love a love story. That was a joy to read. 🙂

  • melissa stover
    October 27, 2010 at 10:49 pm

    i loved hearing your story! you’ll be so glad you wrote that down and so will your daughters.

  • Heather
    October 27, 2010 at 11:08 pm

    Darby: This is a fantastic post. Thanks for sharing your story!

  • Katherine @ Grass Stains
    October 27, 2010 at 11:48 pm

    I love it! Can’t wait to read Part 2. So much fun to read how it all began. And BY THE WAY, you still look 19. WOW.

  • erynn
    October 27, 2010 at 11:52 pm

    First, thanks for the verse. God’s word is true! And second, I also asked out my husband on our first date. A truly wonderful choice indeed.
    Blessings to you,

  • Tessa
    October 27, 2010 at 11:58 pm

    was just heading off to bed when I saw you had a new post. what a sweet love story, thanks for sharing it with us! I started dating my husband at age 16. those old pictures crack me up!

  • Meaghan
    October 28, 2010 at 12:08 am

    It is unreal how similar our “true love” story really is: I totally asked my hubby to “Famous Duos” party for our first date sophomore year of college, DTR (glad to know this word is still used) was most definitely had before the first kiss, and do you happen to be a phi mu (carnation t-shirt)?
    Thank you for your vulnerability. So refreshing. Can’t wait to read more.

  • Chelsea Fahery
    October 28, 2010 at 12:16 am

    This makes my heart smile more than you know. I also met my husband when I was 19. Although I am only 25 (he is 26) and we have been married less than 2 years, we have identical twin girls and 2 labs to boot and are happy as clams. We are both born and raised in the south (Louisiana) and are LSU Tiger proud, and are currently living in Houston and are loving raising are daughter southern proud. We aren’t going to hold the whole Auburn thing against you. Your family is beautiful and I love everything about our blog and your relationship with your sister. I hope my girls are just as close. Go Tiers, War Eagle or should I say Plainsman? J/K!

  • Julie
    October 28, 2010 at 12:31 am

    I love hearing how people met. Very sweet story! Thanks for sharing.

  • Chelsea Fahery
    October 28, 2010 at 12:31 am

    also my husband, although from New O rlens went to Auburn his freshman year. Thank yo for keeping it real 🙂

  • Melanie
    October 28, 2010 at 12:36 am

    what a lovely, lovely story. I too remember vividly meeting my husband for the first time. It’s amazing how these memories will stay in our minds (and hearts) forever. Thank you for sharing!

  • emily
    October 28, 2010 at 12:59 am

    So sweet. Thanks for sharing and for being open. It’s fun to read your dating story as it takes me back 11 years ago to MY sophomore year at college when I spied my husband. I’ll have to go take a peek through our old journals & love notes.

  • Perfecting Pru
    October 28, 2010 at 2:57 am

    I love all of your posts, but this one is certainly one of my favourites. What a lovely look back on the start of your relationship.

  • Lexi
    October 28, 2010 at 5:49 am

    Love this story! Reminds me that I need not rush into any relationships to make me feel whole. Meaghan asked above if you were a Phi Mu, and I figured you must either be a Phi Mu or an Alpha Chi Omega (Since Auburn has both, and both have the carnation as their flower)….and now I’m dying to know….Because I’d be pretty stoked to call you my sister!

  • barbG
    October 28, 2010 at 5:55 am

    Thanks for sharing Part I. You were a handsome couple then and
    are a handsome couple now–with beautiful Rovers (and Darby Doll). Looking forward to Part II and all others that follow.
    Best wishes,

  • Linsey
    October 28, 2010 at 6:06 am

    I am so glad you just said DTR!!!! I am a high school Family and Consumer Science teacher (formerly known as home ec) and we were talking about relationships not long ago. I mentioned the DTR talk and they looked at me dumbfounded. They obviously don’t use that term anymore, but I think it is a classic! They think I am ancient and I am only 26! Great story!

  • Shireen
    October 28, 2010 at 6:27 am

    Thank you for sharing, Darby!! It did end quite abruptly!! 😉

    I appreciate your transparency so much, and may GOD be honored and glorified as HE speaks to many ‘someones’ through this post.

    I’ve been praying for you and the family, sister. 🙂

  • Katie
    October 28, 2010 at 6:32 am

    DTR — I love it! ha! So fun to read about how y’all met. I guess it just reminds me of my early days with my own husband…I feel giddy right now – ha! I am loving the picture of y’all at the top … how cute.

  • Sara
    October 28, 2010 at 6:32 am

    Such a beautiful start to your relationship. It’s comforting to see someone openly profess their love and respect of Christ and that verse is one I really needed to read today! Thank you for sharing (and I hope there is a pert 2…. you guys are too cute!)

  • Tara
    October 28, 2010 at 6:38 am

    I love that you used DTR in this post.

    We use that all the time and these college students that we love here in Orlando look at us like we’re idiots. 🙂

    Our stories are similar…struggled with getting my identity from relationships and body images….YUCK…thank God for freedom!!!

  • Lynsey
    October 28, 2010 at 6:39 am

    What a great read. I always love a good love story. Can’t wait for part 2.

  • Allie
    October 28, 2010 at 6:44 am

    Darby, thank you so much for your honesty and transparency! I too struggle with body image issues and it makes me feel better to hear that you have too in your past. I look up to you a lot and appreciate you sharing!! Xoxo

  • janet
    October 28, 2010 at 6:50 am

    Thank you for sharing. It made me reflect on my own life and relationships. Memory lane is such a nice place sometimes.You are truly blessed!

  • Jennifer
    October 28, 2010 at 7:03 am

    Darby–love you and your sister and your blogs to pieces. Reminds me of me and my sister. Nice to have another girlfriend over the internet even though we have never met. BTW, loved your post about your car, reassuring sometimes to know other SAHMs are not superwomen either. Very cute love story.

  • Elizabeth
    October 28, 2010 at 7:04 am

    God is so faithful! I have been reading your blog for months and have never had the urge to comment. I have been so moved by your boldness to share God’s character with the blog world. What a cool way that you have been called into a sort of ministry! This story cannot help but remind me of God’s faithfulness and perfect timing for me and my now husband!

  • natalie @ this old southern house
    October 28, 2010 at 7:04 am

    my husband and i met in college too–through my sorority sister. we just didn’t click (though i definitely thought he was a hottie, hehe!), but god knew he was the one for me so 11 months he made us meet again when we were both ready…and well, the rest is history.
    i love good love stories!

  • Cat from iBlog
    October 28, 2010 at 7:11 am

    i LOVED this! thank you for sharing and opening up. I’m sure that can be difficult to do for strangers, I mean stalkers! 😉 i smiled so many times when I read this post. perhaps because i’m from the south, went to an SEC school and so many things about your story reminded me of ours. Thanks again. It’s so nice to remember those first dates and days…..especially with kids and stresses and everything else going on now.

  • Ashley Williams
    October 28, 2010 at 7:23 am

    I will never in my life forget how you and I sat in Subzone, ane we (mainly you) went on & on about your sweet husband’s calves as he ordered a sandwich….or how he was a screen saver before you knew him! LOVE BUGS-you two! I love the story and pictures!
    Y’all are cuties!

  • Today's Letters
    October 28, 2010 at 7:41 am

    loved this.

  • Kirby
    October 28, 2010 at 7:51 am

    I forgot about DTR! I started dating my husband when I was 19 too…and I asked him out! Can’t wait for part 2. Your blog is such an inspiration and an encouragement for a wanna-be momma of 3…or 4, Lord (and husband) willing! I’d love to hear more about your early years in marriage. God bless!

  • Taylor N.
    October 28, 2010 at 7:56 am

    You are such a doll. I loved reading this!

  • Kimberly
    October 28, 2010 at 7:57 am

    The part about eating/ exercise/ body image and God is so true! I remember YEARNING for a boyfriend and it wasn’t until I truely relied on God and became fulfilled through Him that I started dating my fiance! (I would say that I “met” him, but we were already friends…Amazes me when I think about the fact that he was RIGHT in front of my eyes for 2 whole years, but didn’t start dating until God’s timing was right)
    I loved the post!!!!

  • Sara
    October 28, 2010 at 8:05 am

    This is such a sweet reminder of the excitement and sense of possibility at the beginning of all great relationships. I, too, need to remember that crazy, how-did-I-ever-live-without-him feeling during more challenging moments with my husband. (Those challenging moments, as any parent knows, are all the more frequent now with two little ones . . .)

    On another note, I just got an email flyer from Tuesday Morning with a Kidkraft train table and train set for $80 (as opposed to $170, according to the flyer). They’ll be on sale Tuesday morning (imagine that!) in case you’re interested. (And I’m in no way affiliated with Tuesday Morning but I do have a three-year-old train lover myself and this seems like a good deal.)

    Just wanted to let you know. . .

    PS. I’ve read your blog for what seems like forever and a day now, but this is my first comment. I so appreciate your candor and ability to make this crazy business of raising kids seem both the challenge it really is but also enjoyable.

  • Kelly Mann
    October 28, 2010 at 8:06 am

    Such a great post! What a fun way to reminisce on one of the best parts of the relationship. It’s always refreshing to think about how the smallest things made you giddy at that stage, and even more fun I’m sure as you go through the emotions of the rest of your memories!

    I’ve been a reader of yours and your sis for a little bit now and I’m just in love! I actually made some fixed roman shades for my living room and about a month or so later found your tutorial, wish I would have found it sooner!! I went ahead and linked to yours on that post as well because you probably explain the steps a little better, and I fixed a few things on mine after seeing what you did! 🙂 You have the most beautiful family, and though I’m younger, I feel like we’re best friends!

    I do YoungLife {so I hang out with high school girls on a very regular basis} and I thought I’d let you know that I have passed on the DTR term to them, they had no idea before!

  • Jessica @ This Blessed Life
    October 28, 2010 at 8:12 am

    yes, people still say DTR. 🙂 super cute story.

  • Ali
    October 28, 2010 at 8:13 am

    I love reading love stories! Makes me hopeful about finding my love one day. Thank you for sharing! P.S. Does your husband have a younger brother?! 😉

  • Lindsey
    October 28, 2010 at 8:13 am

    Darby, this is such a wonderful post. Thank you so much for being so honest and opening yourself up. It makes me think about how my husband and I met 11 years ago and how much I miss being at Auburn.

  • Melissa (melissab74)
    October 28, 2010 at 8:16 am

    Love, love, love your love story! But even more, I love your willingness to be transparent. I truly feel that God is using you to be a blessing and an encouragement to so many people! You have your own little ministry with the blog!

  • The Mom
    October 28, 2010 at 8:17 am

    Okay, I cried. Then I couldn’t help but notice (even an old woman like me) that he still has those superman muscles.

  • Kerri
    October 28, 2010 at 8:17 am

    Sweet, sweet, sweet. I loved this. Thank you for sharing.

  • Melissa
    October 28, 2010 at 8:18 am

    Isn’t it amazing how timming is everything! So glad you found each other – love the crazy curly hair. My middle brother has the same crazy curly hair.

  • amc
    October 28, 2010 at 8:18 am

    It’s so refreshing to hear a story like this. So often I hear women complain about their husbands or I hear the the media discuss the latest couple headed for divorce. Marriage is hard work, but I believe it can also be very rewarding. I wish it was celebrated and properly respected. Thank you for showing the brighter side 🙂

  • McCall
    October 28, 2010 at 8:24 am

    Darby- Thank you for your honesty. We all have trials, but sometimes it’s nice to be reminded that I’m not the only girl out there who’s ever had issues with my body. God is truly using you (and this little blog o’ yours) to touch lives….like mine. God Bless. 🙂

  • Jen
    October 28, 2010 at 8:24 am

    in Part 2 can we see your wedding? Loved your story. It’s so fun to think about the early years before kids. It was so exciting! I have been dating/married to my husband for 10 years! Sophomore year of college too!

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Tracy
    October 28, 2010 at 8:27 am

    Oh how I love the faithfulness of our Lord! I have a 19yr old, away at college, and just 3 nights ago she texted me, “I want to come home”! The words, “The Lord, with his great mercy, never left me or forsake me during this season of my life and I came out of it realizing that there is nothing on this earth that can satisfy a human heart like Christ, no boyfriend, not even a husband, and certainly not a body image.” apply SO perfectly…and what I was trying to tell her! It’s as though you were sitting on my bed! Thank you for being SO open and honest!! I have forwarded this to her!! Don’t you LOVE how God works!

  • Rebecca
    October 28, 2010 at 8:29 am

    I wake up every morning and open my laptop (with coffee in hand) hoping you have posted something. I realize I seem to have no life 🙂 Anyway, you are an amazing writer, Darby. I feel as if I just read my favorite book. I laughed out loud and was also moved to tears that were both happy and sad. Thanks for keeping it real. We love you 🙂

  • Shar
    October 28, 2010 at 8:31 am

    Love, love, love this post. Please give us Part 2 and more. You have to know how far out you reach people. You have a gift, and mind you, I am old enough to be your mother, but your posts are always so endearing to me. Today’s verse from Romans is so truly great that I stopped right then and wrote it down. Thank you, thank you and thank the Lord for people like you in this world.

  • Scarlett
    October 28, 2010 at 8:32 am

    Great story Darby! God’s greater plan is always a sure thing if we just allow Him to direct us. What an awesome message for your readers! Oh, and WAR EAGLE!

  • Anna
    October 28, 2010 at 8:32 am

    I still have the navy blue stained glass carnation t-shirt 🙂 Maybe I should retire it…didn’t realize it was eleven years old! Sweet story!

  • Andrea
    October 28, 2010 at 8:48 am

    My husband and I are Young Life leaders and we love to use the DTR term with our high school students. They think it’s hilarious. No one DTR’s anymore-especially not before they kiss! ugh!

    Thanks for sharing. Jesus is the only one to satisfy us!

  • wanderluster
    October 28, 2010 at 8:52 am

    These are my favourite types of posts. Thanks for sharing Darby! Though I’m always curious what prompts a blogger to share more of themselves, to expose their vulnerabilities, for their readers. 11 years and it doesn’t look like either of you has aged a bit.

  • Allyson
    October 28, 2010 at 8:54 am

    Loved this post!! Love the Sticklers! Y’all are still the cutest couple!!

  • Emily Morrice
    October 28, 2010 at 8:59 am

    My favourite post you’ve ever written, Darby.

  • Jill Cribb
    October 28, 2010 at 9:00 am

    How sweet! Loved your story and can’t wait to hear the rest…You both are beautiful and seem so on the inside too…He looks a little like Bo Duke to me in the old picture 🙂

  • katiep
    October 28, 2010 at 9:00 am

    all he needs to do is cut his hair and you both look exactly the same! 🙂 that was such a good story!! thanks for sharing, darby.

  • Meg
    October 28, 2010 at 9:03 am

    Sweet, sweet. I love those nervous first feelings…the zing! Your honesty is refreshing…

  • stephanie
    October 28, 2010 at 9:06 am

    LOVE this! SO sweet!!

  • Chessa
    October 28, 2010 at 9:10 am

    Thanks for sharing your life. -Chessa

    You’v been nominated for the Lovely Blog Award: https://antsi-pants.blogspot.com/2010/10/lovely-blog-award.html

  • elizabeth@kentuckymama
    October 28, 2010 at 9:22 am

    justin’s hair made me laugh. thanks for sharing a great story. I love hearing how people met. you both haven’t aged a bit!

  • Amber
    October 28, 2010 at 9:33 am

    Darby 🙂 I also have 2 girls and a boy, am a s.a.h.m who loves to cook and am a believer and I always love your blog but this is my favorite post of yours yet! Thanks for sharing : )

  • alexis scarff
    October 28, 2010 at 9:38 am

    oh please let there be a chapter 2! this post blessed me!! i love how God brings the right people together!! this is my first time commenting, i adore your and your twin sisters’ blogs, thank you for sharing your lives with us!!

  • Oksana
    October 28, 2010 at 9:38 am

    Thank you for being so open and sharing your life with others. It’s very encouraging to know that God has perfect timing. Your story is beautiful.

  • Carrie
    October 28, 2010 at 9:38 am

    When you mentioned meeting your husband in a bookstore in a post last week, I thought: “I SO hope someday she tells that story!” And then you did, and it’s as sweet as I thought it would be.

    I also met my husband in college. But we didn’t start dating until 5 years after we graduated. We still joke to this day that we’d never have been able to be together in college and I thank God every day he made me wait– because by the time we met again it was perfect. {ha, ha, I actually just misspelled perfect, which is kinda like Help Wad but it was my own fault and not autocorrected. And it was the word “perfect”, which serves me right for trying to even think anything is perfect! Or “prefct”, as I typed.} 😉

  • Leiane
    October 28, 2010 at 9:40 am

    Such a sweet post! I met my husband at Haley Center as well….but in a German class of all things! I think it would be nice to have a reunion of all the married couples who met at Haley Center before they tear it down…maybe a pic out on the concourse!

  • Angie
    October 28, 2010 at 9:48 am

    I always read, but rarely (if ever) leave a comment. HOWEVER, this post really struck a chord with me. I also had/have the same eating/exercising issue for ‘controlling” my life. I can’t thank you enough for sharing, it has renewed my spirt to keep fighting the good fight, right when I needed it. The timing could not have been more perfect for this post…GOD IS SO GOOD!! Thanks again!

  • Heather
    October 28, 2010 at 9:52 am

    What a cute beginning to your love story! Isn’t it neat to look back through time and bear witness to God’s timing or fingerprints all over events we could not see at the time!? After my husband and I started dating we realized we had been around each other many times (with the same group of mutual friends), but never introduced.

  • Cami {Good Craft Day}
    October 28, 2010 at 10:02 am

    Awwww! Sweet, sweet, sweet! I love this post. And I agree with the other ladies, your husband is definitely easy on the eyes 🙂

  • Katherine
    October 28, 2010 at 10:05 am

    Beautiful…you just made me cry. In appreciation of past memories, you’ve reminded me of the first moments with my now husband and how God certainly had a hand in it. It’s hard to take a step back and reflect and realize those moments are the reason you are where you are. Your writing always helps me to reflect, and it’s much appreciated 🙂

  • gilda
    October 28, 2010 at 10:06 am

    Thank you for sharing your story of how you two love birds met. That was so sweet I like the last part you wrote about how your posting it up on your mirror (too funny!):)

  • Cat
    October 28, 2010 at 10:06 am

    This made my heart so full! I make my boyfriend read your posts as well because I enjoy them so much! Thanks for your wonderful blog!

    Roll Tide!!

  • Erica
    October 28, 2010 at 10:07 am

    I loved reading this post. Ironically, my husband and I were reminiscing about when we first met the other evening after the kids were asleep. My husband asked me if I would have acted differently the first time that I met him, if I had known that he was going to be my husband and the father of my three amazing children. It is nice to remember these moments when we were so young, and we were first getting to know one another. I too wish that I would have taken more pictures when my husband and I were dating. Thank you for sharing this story.

  • Melise
    October 28, 2010 at 10:12 am

    precious! I love how He ordains everything to His perfect timing!

  • Allyson
    October 28, 2010 at 10:13 am

    What a great story! I still have that shirt! Am I the only one that 10+++ years later is still wearing my sorority t-shirts (in the privacy of my own home-still living in Auburn, I’d never wear it in public for shame of a current sister wondering who the old lady with the kid is with a 1996 Chi-O shirt on)? 😉 I always wondered how you two met. I figured it had to be through XO Dothan girls. But I was wrong! Fate and Faith my friend! I, too, called my husband before he could call me. He also claims he was going to call me (as soon as he tracked down my number since he lost it). We also had a Supper Club story! Funny how that old, nasty, but oh so fun place is in a lot of Auburn couples love story!

  • Annie
    October 28, 2010 at 10:16 am

    I am a freshman at Auburn this year and my mom and I just love your blog. She called me when you put on your last post that you went to Auburn…and I had to call her and tell her to read this one since she and my dad met at Auburn too! Thanks for sharing!!

  • Becky
    October 28, 2010 at 10:28 am

    You haven’t aged a BIT! Amazing!

  • Amanda
    October 28, 2010 at 10:29 am

    This is so great! I love a love story. Can’t wait to hear how the dating the then the marrying went. Thanks so much for sharing!

  • amy
    October 28, 2010 at 10:42 am

    okay, i’ve been reading your blog for some time. call me a ‘casual stalker’. anyway, i always love your posts. great pictures. talented, down-to-earth mommy of three. today’s post really struck a cord with me. i am approaching a very big milestone in my life. halloween will mark a 10 year anniversary for me. 10 years ago, i left the world that i knew (college at troy) and in a sad, confused state, i entered a rehab center in arizona. the next 2 1/2 months had me dealing with an eating disorder/depression or trying to escape the issues. anyway, the Lord never left me and today i am amazed to see all that He has done in my life. blessing after blessing (i’m due on feb.1st with my 3rd child).
    my story has been shared on another blog.


    it is a scary thing to be honest and vulnerable, but thanks for doing so.

    lamentations 3:22-23

  • Jessica
    October 28, 2010 at 10:59 am

    This is so sweet, Darby! I loved reading it. Thanks for sharing your story! 🙂 I want to hear part 2!

  • kathleen
    October 28, 2010 at 11:03 am

    What made you choose Auburn University? and oh no !!! have on line book orders altered chance meetings or are down loading books a modern evil !!!

  • Suzanne
    October 28, 2010 at 11:08 am

    Thanks for sharing! I follow yours and your sister’s blog..we are renovating our house in Austin and love to check in and look for inspiration on both of your blogs…you are so both so talented and creative!
    BTW…carnation?!?! Was it white? Are you a fellow Chi Omega!?!? Just had to ask!
    I met my husband at UT and we now have boy/girl twins who just turned one!!

  • Tara
    October 28, 2010 at 11:20 am


    The pic with the hair brought back sooo many memories! I think he and Jeremiah had contests to see who could have the shaggiest mop!! 🙂

    I love hearing about how you two first met. I think the first time I met you was at Josh and Katherine Andrews’ engagement party at the lake. It’s so fun looking back on old times, especially when you have been together so long.

  • Katie
    October 28, 2010 at 11:21 am

    How sweet and full of God’s grace.

  • Shan
    October 28, 2010 at 11:24 am

    Loved this post! (well, i love all your posts!) Can i just say that you look the exact same as when you were 19!?

  • kat
    October 28, 2010 at 11:28 am

    All in God’s timing. 🙂

  • angela
    October 28, 2010 at 11:37 am

    Oh how I love this Darby! What a great story! I can’t wait for Part II! I have to tell you, YOU look EXACTLY the same in that first picture as you do now! I can’t get over it…but hubs has matured a little!:)

  • Christa
    October 28, 2010 at 11:44 am

    This post made me smile, well, laugh actually! I just posted 2 weeks ago about my DTR with my Superman who I asked out first (against policy!) Although he did try to sneak a kiss in before the DTR, I have lightening skills and was able to dodge it… https://sodemanland.com/2010/10/14/this-very-day/

    So fun to read your story, thanks for sharing. (today and all the time!!)


  • Jessica
    October 28, 2010 at 11:52 am

    What a fun post to read!! Thank you for sharing the story!

  • Real Housewife in MN
    October 28, 2010 at 11:53 am

    Love this! And yes, I agree with the “DTR” convo. I called it the “What are we” chat………..important step! Love the blog 🙂

  • Jessica
    October 28, 2010 at 11:55 am

    Soooo sweet! Thanks for sharing

  • JenniB
    October 28, 2010 at 12:17 pm

    Loved reading part 1 of the Darby/Justin love story!! Thanks for your honesty and candor. (Have you read Ree Drummonds Black Heels to Tractor Wheels? It’s pretty funny!) Can’t wait for part 2~ don’t keep us waiting too long!
    I really enjoy your blog…it brightens my day!!
    PS…gotta find a Justin doll!!

  • Suzanne
    October 28, 2010 at 12:22 pm

    Such a sweet post! I really think you need to do a Part 2 also, with details about the proposal and marriage and such. I love the pictures too. (I totally have a secret non-stalkery crush on your husband.) I can’t believe he used to have that hilarious mop-top blonde afro! So cute. 🙂

  • pve
    October 28, 2010 at 12:26 pm

    you both look innocently guilty, if that is even possible.
    love that you are partners in crime and in jail too.
    enjoy your love.
    embrace it.
    even on bad days.

  • Snekcip
    October 28, 2010 at 12:59 pm

    Beautiful love story! You inspired me to write “How we met story” and share it w/my grandkids! We have been married 24 1/2 years and together for 27!!

  • Arielle
    October 28, 2010 at 1:03 pm

    Loved reading this, loved the adorable picture of the two of you, and especially loved the third paragrpah. So much of it resonates with where I was before my husband and I started dating (even the time frame!) Thanks so much for sharing this sweet story!!

  • Chris
    October 28, 2010 at 1:06 pm

    Very sweet Darby!

  • Mrs. R
    October 28, 2010 at 1:21 pm

    I just love this post!! I can’t wait for part 2. You guys are really the best looking couple!

  • Ashley
    October 28, 2010 at 1:24 pm

    so sweet! look at that hair!

  • Emily
    October 28, 2010 at 1:39 pm

    This is SUCH a cute post and so fun that you remember all of that! I love your blog (first time to comment)and how you share your faith and family with all of us! And yes we still use DTR– or at least me all of my 23 yr old friends do 🙂 cant wait for part 2!!!

  • Jessie
    October 28, 2010 at 1:46 pm

    What a great post! It took me right back to the first time I remember thinking that I loved my husband. We were barely 16!

    Your faith is very inspiring. I often times don’t let God handle the things in my life as I should.

    This is my first time to comment, but I love your blog. You make me laugh and certainly inspire me!!

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Teri
    October 28, 2010 at 1:49 pm

    How can you ever get ticked at that dimple? 😉

  • Amy
    October 28, 2010 at 1:57 pm

    i LOVE this post! thanks for telling us your precious story. and i smiled so big at the mention of a “DTR.” that was a popular acronym when i was in college, too. 🙂

  • Rebecca
    October 28, 2010 at 2:01 pm

    I really love that you decided to share this story.
    Thank you for the endless inspiration.

  • Sarah
    October 28, 2010 at 2:16 pm

    Thanks for sharing your precious story & photo from back in the day. Love it!!! Pretty please share your engagement & wedding story & pics too. We are all dying to read & see more from you about “the early days” with Justin. Precious couple & precious family. Haven’t really commented much but I am the gal from TN that sent you the Wilton cupcake pan last year for Morgan’s party. 🙂 Thanks for always keeping it real. As a young SAHM you really encourage me!

  • Kaela
    October 28, 2010 at 2:18 pm

    Oh you’ve done it again! Just when I thought I couldn’t like you anymore! Besides sharing a birthday (down to the year!), we also share a love of curly blonde haired, blue eyed boys! Though, my husband turned out to be brown hair, brown eyes – he’s still hot, I’ll keep him! I have a theory about blonde haired, blue eyed boys and fraternities – If your husband was in one, I bet I could guess which!

  • Kelly
    October 28, 2010 at 2:32 pm

    Ironically, the story of how my husband and I met is eerily similar to yours, and it made my heart smile. Thanks for sharing!

  • Beth
    October 28, 2010 at 2:36 pm

    Love it! I love to think back on those ‘first’ days of mine and my husband’s relationship! It always helps me to remember how much I really do love him and how blessed I am~ Thanks for your honesty!

  • nicole lane
    October 28, 2010 at 2:42 pm

    i’m sure i’m one of the many who stalk you and never leave comments. i don’t know you from adam, but so feel like i know you and everything you write sounds like my life exactly (i even have identical twin girls). i know we would be the very best of friends if we ever met in real life 🙂 i love following your adorable little family!

  • Tara McClendon
    October 28, 2010 at 3:21 pm

    Ok, so wasn’t that stained glass carnation shirt from our Pledge formal? 1998? And was the blue bronco Rigsby’s bronco? I never knew that!! I still remember sitting in a packed out AUMC watching you love birds get married and then dancing our rears off at the reception. I couldn’t believe that Darby McPherson was married, so I’m pretty sure I cried as you drove off that night. I mean, on day we were sitting in Hugh Guffey’s class, and the next day you were MARRIED! I love how it all played out though. Sweet, sweet story!

  • Sara
    October 28, 2010 at 3:28 pm

    What a sweet and wonderful story. Also a great reminder to us single girls out here who are still waiting for the one God has chosen for us. God’s timing is perfect and I trust his plan, but sometimes you want to say, “God- will it be anytime soon?” 🙂

    I just knew you were a Chi Omega! I attended another university, but Chi O will always be close to my heart. I met friends who I will have for the rest of my life, and also love that Chi Omega was founded on christian ideals.

    Can’t wait for part 2!

  • kayce hughes
    October 28, 2010 at 3:59 pm

    You guys are so adorable…and so young! Thanks for sharing your story.

  • Jill
    October 28, 2010 at 4:05 pm

    Oh I just love this post! I recently wrote one about me and my now husband here (https://aaronandjillw.blogspot.com/2010/10/ten-years-ago-today.html). We’ve been together since we were 13! How crazy is that? We look at 13 yr olds today and we say, “There’s NO WAY our future children are “going out” with anyone when they’re that young!” haha It turned out good though! Thanks for sharing your story and I can’t wait for Part 2!

  • Lindsay A
    October 28, 2010 at 4:50 pm

    Part two, part two! Loved this and LOVE the photo of you both so young. …Also, whenever I think of chopping off my hair I think about how beautiful your long locks and how well you pull it off. Engagement story! Wedding photos! Please?

  • danae
    October 28, 2010 at 4:51 pm

    i have been looking at your blog as well as your sisters for the last couple of months now..i love them both! i live in maui with my hubby..we have 2 little girls (4 and 1)..we are in the process of re-doing our little cottage at the foot of the mountains over looking the ocean..you and your sister have been such an inspiration to me in so many ways..first, in the decorating..you both have incredible style with your homes..and i love it that you re-did your home with small children..it gives me hope on a daily basis:)…i love your posts on motherhood and raising your children..i think we, as mothers, all have the same feelings/emotions as you do and i love this post about your husband! it’s so cute…it brought back memories of me and my hubby and i laughed so hard about the “get out of gail free card”..we all need some of those to give out:)….and i love how your blog is so real! you take care and keep doing a great job with your blog!

  • shannon
    October 28, 2010 at 4:59 pm

    holy dang this is adorable. that first picture is perfection.
    part 2. part 2. part 2. (i’m chanting this)
    pretty please?!?!?!

  • shelby
    October 28, 2010 at 6:59 pm

    what an awesome story! I should really think about writing down the story of how my husband and I met before too much longer. We have been together 18 years! I was 16 and he was 19 when we started dating 🙂

  • Lauren
    October 28, 2010 at 7:02 pm

    Can we please have more pictures of the two of you from the early days?? So cute! Thanks so much for sharing!!

  • Hannah
    October 28, 2010 at 7:03 pm

    Beautiful post- so refreshing. I love reading your blog- you are so real,and approachable, and relatable. I espcially love the part where you said you should use this post as a reminder or your love- at those times when it can be tough. We all need reminders of why we put our faith in things sometimes I think. Thanks for sharing!

  • Kitty Hurdle
    October 28, 2010 at 7:21 pm

    SERIOUSLY, this was such a wonderfully heart-warming & God-glorifying post! Thank you for sharing your story–God’s story, really! And thanks for sharing your life.
    I work with Campus Crusade for Christ and I know that this story will be uber-encouraging to them…and yes, now they say “DTI” for “define the intentions” and then there is a “DTR” to define the actual relationship! HA! Just imagine your story with the addition of Facebook & texting…it keeps me employed 🙂

  • Michele
    October 28, 2010 at 7:24 pm

    This was just the sweetest thing! I love to hear stories about how people first met and fell in love. I’ve been with my husband just over nine years. We still love to reminisce and think about the fun we had as a new couple. Reflecting on those early years as a couple makes me appreciate where we are now and what we’ve been through. Great Bible verse that you shared!

  • Melissa
    October 28, 2010 at 7:37 pm

    What a precious story. When you know how to listen, it all unfolds the way it’s supposed to, doesn’t it? I love hearing your Auburn stories– it makes me homesick. Here’s to many more years together for you two!

  • Katie
    October 28, 2010 at 7:43 pm

    Ain’t life grand!! Love the story! Oh how God was looking out for us all back then!! 🙂

  • Lauren {themonogramswap}
    October 28, 2010 at 8:03 pm

    I love hearing “how we met” stories! Can’t wait for part 2!!

  • Help Wad
    October 28, 2010 at 9:10 pm

    love you and carlos santana. i love that rigsby’s bronco was the DTR spot. love that i lived with you all through college and saw it all unfold. love you and look forward to celebrating with you next weekend. xoxo ms

  • Sara
    October 28, 2010 at 10:54 pm

    Hi Darby,
    This post was precious. It gives me hope that this could happen to me, a 19 year old at FSU. I am a huge fan of your blog and have read it all!

    If you have the time I was wondering if you could take this survey. It is for my advertising research class here at FSU and is targeted at women ages 25-34.
    For the last question it is important to pick group 1.

    Thanks, Sara

  • caitlyn
    October 28, 2010 at 11:23 pm

    sisterfriend~ how evident the Lord’s love for you is! what a blessing that He provides for us and restores us in even our weakest moments–our cups overflow! you are so gifted! the joy of the Lord just shines right through you!

  • Caroline
    October 29, 2010 at 2:33 am

    I was so disappointed with how short this post was… I wanted it to go on and on! I absolutely loved it and can’t wait for you to continue with your story. It is so much fun to think back on those “early years.” Oh and your girls look EXACTLY like Justin (minus the white boy afro). 🙂

  • Liz Relwani
    October 29, 2010 at 5:14 am

    Thank you so much for sharing such a deeply personal story. I loved it.

  • LaNan Justice
    October 29, 2010 at 6:26 am

    I hope you read this. I’m 45 years old and I love your blog. I think your beautiful, your family’s beautiful and you have a beautiful heart and spirit. I have 2 daughters 21 and 18 whom I’ve been trying to guide through the difficulty of dating, understanding Gods will in your life at that age, and wonderful it can be to trust Him, and rest in Him and wait for Him. But mine are just a mothers words, and I wanted you to know I think your blog was a wonderful, REAl encouragement for them….thank you for your time and sharing, your really touching peoples lives. Also, I have a 6 year old daughter and 3 year old son…and your blog helps keep my heart light and stop and remember to enjoy the little things, like making a snack together, reading a book, watching them grow, it happens so fast. Love to you and your family! LaNan in Texas!

  • May
    October 29, 2010 at 7:18 am

    Darby, what a wonderful love story you two have! God really does work wonders – I met my own loving husband when we were going on 12 and here we are with 4 years of marriage and a beautiful daughter 15 years later. And although it’s not always easy, it was definitely worth the wait.

    You and Justin really have not changed at all (except hair style, of course). Thank you for encouraging me to be a loving wife and mother by sharing your own joys and hardships. Your testimony is very powerful and I thank the Lord for you. 🙂

  • Jennifer
    October 29, 2010 at 7:36 am

    Thanks for your honesty. Funny how we remember things so sweet to us, I too remember the DTR with my hubby and hope to never forget it! It’s in a journal I am sure of it. 🙂 Have a good weekend!

  • Lacey
    October 29, 2010 at 8:42 am

    Such a sweet story! That’s a lot of hair- haha! Thank you for sharing!

  • Dianne
    October 29, 2010 at 9:30 am

    I loved reading your love story and am waiting for Part 2. You and your sister are such an inspiration to me.

  • Amy
    October 29, 2010 at 9:42 am

    Thanks for sharing your story!!! It’s always fun to hear how people met and fell in love. I met my husband too in college and the rest is history. I don’t expect you to want to know our story, but the pic of my sweet hubby when we started dating is priceless and one that I treasure as you treasure yours. Here is a peek at a similar post I made last year. https://averytnfamily.blogspot.com/2009/05/avery-house-beginnings.html Congratulations on your years together as a couple. Here’s to many more!

  • Ashlee
    October 29, 2010 at 10:49 am

    Darby, I love your blog! This is my first time to comment, but believe me I’ve wanted to on many of your posts. Thank you for sharing this sweet story and I can’t wait for part 2 (hint, hint!) By the way, I love the ‘happy camper’ tee I purchased for my Rover! It’s adorable and I plan on purchasing more!

  • Jess
    October 29, 2010 at 11:34 am

    I loved this sweet blog! It’s fun to look back on how it all came to be – your children will appreciate this so much!

  • Leslie
    October 29, 2010 at 12:02 pm

    I was reading your post last night – probably later than I should have been because when I read “DTR” I thought it said “DTF” and my eyes just about popped out of their sockets! DTF is something totally inappropriate and means something even more totally different, so your sweet love story almost took a different turn! I reread it with clearer PG eyes and saw my mistake!!! That’s what I get for not passing out the minute my kiddos are in bed like I normally do AND for catching an episode of Jersey Shore, which is where I picked up the inappropriate acronym!

  • McKenzie
    October 29, 2010 at 12:13 pm

    I just positively adore this post! I firmly believe in God’s timing and His plan and it’s wonderful to hear your story. You and your husband are precious… when you were 19, and still today! Thanks for sharing your personal stories– always an inspiration!

  • Missye
    October 29, 2010 at 12:43 pm

    So sweet, Darby. So sweet!

  • kristen
    October 29, 2010 at 1:31 pm

    Precious, Precious post Darby!!

  • meread
    October 29, 2010 at 2:14 pm

    i just got a lump in my throat when i read romans 12:12. i’ve been reading your story for over a year. i spent this last summer in haiti and romans 12:12 became my verse that i walk through daily life with. there’s just so many things that you touched on that i just felt compelled to leave a comment. i’ve never left one before, so i’m sorry if it’s not too exciting. may Jesus just bless you and your sweet family. thanks for your vulnerability. what an encouragement you are.

    ps- something tells me you repped chi omega during your time at auburn. if so, that just made my day! i’m a chi o next door at samford! hootie hoo.

  • Jennifer Reyes
    October 29, 2010 at 3:40 pm

    Great post….so fun to hear who you were “Pre” Mommy. God’s plan is always evident when you see the outcome you two have created…thanks for the fun post. 🙂 Jennifer

  • Mary Margaret
    October 29, 2010 at 4:00 pm

    Great story, thanks for posting! I’d love to hear more about the engagement/weddding too, we girls can’t help ourselves 🙂

  • Kathryn
    October 29, 2010 at 4:10 pm

    Hi Darby!

    I’ve been reading your blog for so long (I love it!) but have never commented before. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing. You are truly an encouragement to me. Thank you.

  • Still Praying
    October 29, 2010 at 7:28 pm

    I’m 37 and still hoping God has someone for me. Thanks for sharing your story!

  • tara faulkner
    October 29, 2010 at 8:13 pm

    Darby…thank you for sharing your love story! I would love if your husband did a blog from his point of view too! A great story…really, truly a great story.

  • Natalie
    October 29, 2010 at 8:50 pm

    This is precious! I love the picture of you two. YES, people use DTRs I’ve had a few in my day but thankfully don’t have to go through those anymore now. 🙂

    Thank you also for being open about your body image struggles, and for sharing so openly about your faith. You are definitely an inspiration.

    Your family is precious, thanks so much for sharing through your blog. 🙂

  • Nelle
    October 29, 2010 at 9:32 pm

    I need Romans 12:12 so badly!! Thank you.

  • Mary Elizabeth
    October 29, 2010 at 10:50 pm

    What a PRECIOUS picture and story!!! Love looking back and seeing the Lord’s hand in our lives….Thank you for sharing and for the encouragement that you may not even realize you give.

  • Amy Leigh
    October 29, 2010 at 11:11 pm

    Well, any couple that meets in the Haley Center Bookstore (especially when one or more party is wearing a Navy-white-carnation-stained-glass shirt, circa 1997/98-is bound to live happily ever after, of course!

  • Mandy
    October 30, 2010 at 6:50 am

    Such a sweet story of your meeting…precious! I met my husband my sophmore year at Clemson the same way!!! And I invited him to a sorority party and then it began! He is cute…I would have noticed him too!

  • mama walker
    October 30, 2010 at 8:10 am

    hey darby girl,
    I have a boy with that hair too. its funny he looked like that when we got together and I made him go get a haircut. 12 years later I am begging him to grow it back out.He grows it and I love it and then he shaves it back off. hmph! gotta love those fro boys!!

  • Bryn
    October 30, 2010 at 12:27 pm

    Loved this post…what a cute love story, and an amazing testimony of God’s work in your life! Your transparency was great – God is good!

  • Ellen
    October 30, 2010 at 9:17 pm

    This post was SO sweet. I love your blog, I’m in college & have yet to find “that one” and this just reminded me that God has someone special out there waiting on me. Happy Halloween to you and your family 🙂

  • Emily
    October 31, 2010 at 3:51 pm

    I love a love story Darby! I can see that look in your eyes in the picture – like you’re saying to the camera: “Isn’t he amazing?? I’m in LOVE with him! Now get out of here so we can be on our way!” I feel in love with my husband when I was 14… it’s been 15 years! Still adore him as much today as I did when we were teenagers. Bring on more of the memories posts – clearly your readers love them!!

  • Katherine
    October 31, 2010 at 4:05 pm

    Darby that is EXACTLY how my husband and I started dating! Except it was a tailgate, not a bookstore. I asked him to a sorority grab-a-date six years ago and we were just married this past June. God’s timing was/is PERFECT!
    Hoping your next post will be your cuties in their trick or treat attire!

  • Keena
    November 1, 2010 at 11:08 am

    Hi Darby, Greetings from Kingston Jamaica. I just want to say how encouraging your blog is and more so this post. Its a beautiful thing to see the movement of the Holy Spirit in the details of our lives. Thanks for sharing, you are a blessing!

  • andrea
    November 1, 2010 at 3:56 pm

    Darby, you have the power to help many. I’m glad you were honest. It’s one of those things that shouldn’t stay hidden. In my family, there is another affliction, and when one person is sick, those around them get affected too. It’s important to share our experience, strength and hope around these issues. It’s the only way to help others learn that they don’t have to live like that anymore.

    Great love story too. You two seem like a great couple. 🙂 Thanks for sharing…

  • Jennifer
    November 2, 2010 at 2:32 pm

    Haha, I love it! I’m doing the same thing over at my blog; it’s so nice to get your story down. It’s incredible how many things have slipped my mind regarding our relationship in the last 11 years. It’s fun reminiscing! 🙂

  • Abby Maddox
    November 2, 2010 at 3:22 pm

    I read this on the road this weekend, so I couldn’t leave a comment. However, I am so happy you did this post. I knew bits and pieces of your story, but it was fun to hear it all from beginning to end. Also, it helps to review how and why we fell in love…doesn’t it :)? When I am feeling angry with or disconnected from Jeremiah, a trip down memory lane can almost always bring me back. Miss you friend!

  • Sue
    November 6, 2010 at 10:40 am

    Also, met my husband at Auburn….the year, 1964. After 44 years of marriage, I would say it was a wonderful thing! Your story brings back a flood of memories for me…..Auburn was a great place to date and fall in love. Thanks for sharing!