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A Good Update

Hello Friends!

Bear with me… E called and talked to Justin around 11 pm… Hornet kept us up last night and Justin left around 4:30 am so I’m going on what I remember her telling him last night. Brainwaves please connect!

From what I gather, Dr. Neurology fully redeemed his rapport among the family when he FINALY arrived last night for a consultation. He stuck around for a long time, answered everyone’s questions, became DaddyBoy’s new best friend, and told Chance to watch out for those garage doors . He said at Chance’s age {35, I think} it is safer to allow the blood that has pooled between his brain and skull to reabsorb {that’s my word… I don’t know medical terms} into his system on it’s own rather than to go in and attempt to drain it surgically. The blood is 8mm thick and hasn’t changed. I was thinking all day that it was 8mm in circumference but apparently that’s the thickness. {Again, I’m sure there’s a fancier term for thickness.}
Chance is still in ICU. DaddyBoy drove Erika home last night and stayed the night with her. Chance’s parents stayed over night at the hospital with him {well, not really with him because they can’t with him in ICU but you know what I mean}.

The doctor confidently said that Chance will fully recover from this with no damage to his brain, just his ego. He will be in the hospital at least until Sunday and then will have to take it very easy for 30 days and they will closely monitor him during that time. The only risk of leaving the blood in there is a seizure but that is why they’ve ordered him to take it easy.

So, that’s all I know for now! Sorry I couldn’t get my sorry carcass out of bed last night at 11pm and come tell y’all all of that. I subtly hinted to Justin that I’d like him to come out here and update the blog… he laughed.

Mom and I will decide today what we are going to do. Mom will probably make her way down there. Justin just so happens to be working in Ft. Walton Beach these next two days so he will be able to be with them. I will probably stay put with the crumb-crunchers.

DaddyBoy literally walked out of work when he heard about this, went straight to O’Hare and flew out. He had to go shopping last night when he got in, he only had the clothes on his back. Hopefully he thought to ask his new best friend, Dr. Neurology, to fill his prescriptions that he forgot to bring with him.

As I know more, I’ll share. Aren’t ya’ll glad I’m a girl? If Justin had agreed to update, it would go like this: Chance is doing well, still in ICU, no surgery needed, will be in hospital at least ’til Sunday.

Thank y’all for all your comments and prayers.

Psalm 116:1-2: I love the LORD, for he heard my voice; he heard my cry for mercy. Because he turned his ear to me, I will call on him as long as I live.

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  • Emalee
    April 3, 2009 at 5:38 am

    I fell asleep and woke up praying for Chance and Erika. Thanks for the update! Your Daddy sure is a special man. Y’all are a lucky family!

  • Debra
    April 3, 2009 at 5:40 am

    Good news~Thank you for your up-dates. Still praying here in Maine.

  • paula
    April 3, 2009 at 5:44 am

    God so rocks!

  • The Gunters
    April 3, 2009 at 5:45 am

    Blogs are wonderful things!! My husband and I have both been praying and thinking of your whole family. I’m glad you were able to get the word out to so many people. Thank you so much for your update.

  • The Southern Lady
    April 3, 2009 at 5:46 am

    Praise the Lord! This is great news, Darby. I’ve continued to pray and asked others as well, so Chance has a swift, non-eventful recovery.

    You’re all truly blessed to be surrounded by so many who love you.

  • Jessica
    April 3, 2009 at 5:49 am

    That’s great news that they don’t have to do surgery and he’s going to fully recover. I woke up this morning thinking of Erika and Chance and was hoping you had been able to update! I’ll keep praying that he has a speedy recovery and no seizures.

  • Anonymous
    April 3, 2009 at 5:49 am

    PRAISE THE LORD! God is SO Awesome!!

  • Anonymous
    April 3, 2009 at 5:53 am

    An answer to prayer! YES!

  • Hillary @ The Other Mama
    April 3, 2009 at 5:55 am

    Great update! So glad to hear!!
    YAY God (since my brainwaves aren’t up this morning, either)! I’m glad that things are on a joking course instead of anything else. What nice orders to take it easy! That’s wonderful. I’m glad Dr. Neurology made good.
    We will continue to keep you all in our prayers for a smooth transition back home and a brief stay in the hospital!

  • Allie
    April 3, 2009 at 5:56 am

    Great News! Even though we don’t know each other, I found myself thinking about your sister and brother in law before I closed my eyes and right when I woke up this morning. I was anxious to get to my office this morning to check for an update! So relieved that things are looking bright. The tight bond you and your family share sure is inspirational. Oh, and your
    crumb-crunchers….they’re just adorable!
    Take care,
    Allie from NJ

  • The Harris Family
    April 3, 2009 at 5:57 am

    I feel asleep praying for yall! PTL for that update! Yeah! {PS don’t beat yourself up over not posting the updates in a hurry or last night even….we all spent that much more time in prayer to our God on Chance’s behalf, our faith had a chance to grow…(no pun intended but kinda neat huh!?) No time spent in prayer is wasted!

  • heather
    April 3, 2009 at 5:58 am

    Yes…men don’t give the details in quite the same way that women do! Glad to hear things are improving. You and Erika have such an amazing family. I can’t imagine having such a great father like Daddyboy!

  • Gray Matters
    April 3, 2009 at 5:59 am

    So glad to hear everyone’s doing well. Prayer is such a powerful tool!

  • Carly
    April 3, 2009 at 6:01 am

    This is wonderful news! Thank you so much Darby for keeping us all posted! What wonderful parents you have:)

  • Joyce
    April 3, 2009 at 6:08 am

    Darby thank you so much for the good news. I don’t normally leave a comment here, but I follow almost daily. When things settle a bit- let Erika know her camera buddy and pancake fan (in a can) is sending her many prayers and hugs.

    All my best-

  • Dianne
    April 3, 2009 at 6:08 am

    Great news!! Praise the Lord!! I am so relieved to hear this and happy for all of you. You have a wonderful family unit and that is so needed at times like this. Please continue to keep us informed. Love you guys!

  • Jill Pope
    April 3, 2009 at 6:10 am

    That is great news, we were praying through the night! Your family is wonderful and I love the little thing about Justin at the bottom, cracking me up!

  • annek
    April 3, 2009 at 6:13 am

    Glad to hear the good news. Sounds like you will be tired today…but now you can rest a little easier so that’s a good thing! Take care.

  • Sarah
    April 3, 2009 at 6:21 am

    Praise the Lord for such wonderful blessings. Hopefully Chance will be able to really take it easy for a month. I’ll still be praying for him and your family!

  • Joel and Lee-Anne
    April 3, 2009 at 6:23 am

    Darby – thankful for answered prayers and we are still praying!!! Appreciate you updating your blog while getting your morning going, feeding the small children, guzzling your much needed coffee, visiting with your mom, making crafts, etc, etc…..:):)
    Much love

  • Julie Wolfe
    April 3, 2009 at 6:23 am

    That’s wonderful news, Darb! We’ll continue praying for them.

  • The Hams
    April 3, 2009 at 6:35 am

    What wonderful news! I woke up thinking about you guys several times last night – 36 weeks pregnant with twins doesn’t allow for much sleep these days- and I am so glad that the news is good! I am keeping you all in my prayers and thanks for the update.

  • GraceK
    April 3, 2009 at 6:39 am

    SO glad to hear that positive update. Prayers still coming his way!

  • Love Being a Nonny
    April 3, 2009 at 6:44 am

    Another opportunity to thank our Jesus for His many blessings. thank you for the update Darby.

    angela in NC

  • Keri A. Ward
    April 3, 2009 at 6:46 am

    what an AMAZING Father we have! Praise Him! 🙂
    I am praying for Chance and your family. Thank you for the update.

  • Anonymous
    April 3, 2009 at 6:48 am

    So happy to hear the good news!!

  • Shireen
    April 3, 2009 at 6:51 am


    Darby, how in the world are you able to maintain your household and keep us posted ALL the time!?!?! 🙂

    Love you and SO thankful!

  • LindsB
    April 3, 2009 at 6:51 am

    So happy to hear a positive update on Chance! All those blogger prayers must be working. I’ll be hoping for more good news as the weekend goes on!!

  • laura
    April 3, 2009 at 6:54 am

    erika and chance will be in my prayers~so glad to hear the “good update”

  • erika
    April 3, 2009 at 6:55 am

    i love you.

  • akb228
    April 3, 2009 at 6:57 am

    Such wonderful news!!!! We’ll keep praying. xoxo, Alison

  • Haven and Home
    April 3, 2009 at 6:57 am

    That is so scary, I am very glad to hear he is doing well. I will keep them in my prayers.

  • Candice
    April 3, 2009 at 7:06 am

    I prayed for them a lot yesterday, I just couldnt get them out of my head, I am thankfull that he will recover. God bless you and your family, hang in there.

  • MaryBeth
    April 3, 2009 at 7:08 am

    Thanks once again for taking the time to update everybody and thank God it is with good news. Please send our love and prayers to Erika and Chance. xo, MB

  • the sweet life with olives
    April 3, 2009 at 7:09 am

    oh this is great news. you literally just made my day, weekend, week… I tossed and turned in bed all night (even got up a couple times to check your blog). i hope erika has managed to stay as calm as possible considering the stress… you know the pink bean and all. thanks darby for the update. still praying for all the best. xx

  • Lindsey
    April 3, 2009 at 7:17 am

    darby, that is SO wonderful to hear! i was praying for them as i went to sleep last night and hoping for some great news this morning. i will continue to pray for his recovery and no seizures. and yes, i’m glad you are a girl and we got all the details. thinking about you this weekend too.

  • Kaysha Patel
    April 3, 2009 at 7:18 am

    PTL!!!! (I got that abbreviation from you and use it all the time!)
    So glad Chance is doing well.
    I hope Erika and baby peanut are getting some rest.
    By the way, your dad is the best Father in Law ever…so sweet of him to drop everything and fly out to be there.

  • Abby
    April 3, 2009 at 7:25 am

    Oh, thank god! What good news. Love to Erika, Chance and the whole family!

    Isn’t is great to have a father who drops everything when his daughters are in need. I have one of those too and I don’t know how I’d get through life without him.

  • megan
    April 3, 2009 at 7:32 am

    Praise Jesus! Wonderful news, but the prayers won’t stop! Thank you for the update (and the bit of humor). 🙂 Hugs to Erika!

  • Kathy
    April 3, 2009 at 7:35 am

    Praise the Lord!

  • Kellie
    April 3, 2009 at 7:42 am

    Thanks for the detailed “girly” update – far better than a guys, even with few brainwaves…. so glad his Dr. Neurology had better bedside manner than our Dr. Pediatric Neurosurgeon – he was the pitts. Will keep praying! Keep up with those crumb crunchers – you will sure miss your mom!!!! PS – I’m looking for some great bathroom pictures ASAP!!!!!

  • Molly Flynn
    April 3, 2009 at 7:46 am

    Praise the Lord! Will continue to pray, but so thankful for the good news! Thanks for the updates!

  • AnNicole @ OurSuburbanCottage
    April 3, 2009 at 7:59 am

    That’s great news! I’m still praying that the blood will drain and he’ll be back to his normal self soon. Thanks for the update.

  • Gordostyle
    April 3, 2009 at 8:08 am

    WONDERFUL! Awesome! Hooray! Yahoo!

    Thank GOD!


  • Ashley
    April 3, 2009 at 8:18 am

    Thanks for the update! You are very detailed just like myself! If my husband made the update it would have been even shorter than Justin’s version! I’m just glad to hear some good news ~ I’ve been thinking about everyone since yesterday’s post. God is great! Take care.

  • Merryheart
    April 3, 2009 at 8:21 am

    Rejoice in the Lord for He is good!
    Prayers are answered and we are happy to get some good news. Glad age in on Chance’s side…….!!
    Praying for God’s continued healing and NO seizures. Your family is great and an amazing witness of love and togetherness.
    I know it is hard not to go be with them but being a Mom means many sacrifices and we wouldn’t have it any other way! Hugs to your little “crumb-crunchers”, as you call them…

  • jae
    April 3, 2009 at 8:25 am

    This is wonderful news! Thanks for the update and I’m so glad that your family is so loving and supportive of each other….makes all the difference when life gets tough like this. Will continue to keep all of you in my prayers.

  • Kate@ Kids and Cocktails
    April 3, 2009 at 8:26 am

    So glad to hear that he’s doing good and they’re thinking no surgery. Good news!

    Does he remember what happened yet? Was it really the garage door? Poor thing!

  • The Martin Family
    April 3, 2009 at 8:34 am

    Whew! Thank you Jesus! You tell the little mama to take it easy too!

  • christy
    April 3, 2009 at 8:46 am

    Thank you for keeping us in the loop. Glad he is doing wel, except for the bruie on the head & ego. 😉

  • henrydefine
    April 3, 2009 at 9:35 am

    Great to hear the update! I don’t personally know you or Erika, but I read both of your blogs daily, sometimes more than once– so I feel like I know you two amazing girls and am praying for Chance and Erika! -Jessica

  • Michele
    April 3, 2009 at 9:41 am

    Praise the Lord for his mercy and care! Still praying in Charlottesville! Be well!

  • Gail
    April 3, 2009 at 10:13 am

    Glory be to God!!!! Prayers are answered! Sooo happy for all of you and now Erika can rest! Thanks for the update and sharing. In his love, G

  • Rachel
    April 3, 2009 at 10:20 am

    Darby! I’ve started reading your and Erika’s blog about 2 weeks ago and just adore you both! Praise God for the good report and will continue to pray for Chance, Erika and the rest of your family!

  • The Rauths
    April 3, 2009 at 10:30 am

    just got caught up on the situation. my prayers are with ya’ll. the icu and hospital suck. i know the fear ya’ll are feeling. here’s my one piece of advice from experience: you are your only advocate in the hospital. ask ask ask. bug bug bug. if you worry the answer is not good enough ask for a second consultation. your nurses (especially in icu) are your best friends. the icu floor doctor is also your best friend. while they are the last to know anything, usually, they also are the ones who see your loved one 24 hours a day. they can push to the specialty doctors like no one else can. i pray for peace, healing and patience. these things are hard.

  • Laura
    April 3, 2009 at 10:43 am

    Great news! Hope to hear he is recovered and well very soon!

  • beki
    April 3, 2009 at 11:42 am

    I’m so happy to hear this! Thanks for updating 🙂

  • Heather H
    April 3, 2009 at 11:44 am

    great news!!!!

    thanks for the updates!

  • Lisa
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  • Caroline
    April 3, 2009 at 11:57 am

    Great News! I will continue to lift him and your family up!

  • Anonymous
    April 3, 2009 at 12:03 pm

    I’ve been praying for your sister and her husband throughout my day. Your dad is my hero!

  • fric and frac
    April 3, 2009 at 12:29 pm

    What a relief! I am so happy to hear that he will be okay.

  • Amy
    April 3, 2009 at 12:47 pm

    God love Daddy Boy. Does he want to adopt any more kids? The way that your family treats one another is so inspiring!!!

    I will continue to pray for Erica and Chance. Let’s hope that the biggest challenge they will have going forward is how to get the peanut to sleep through the night!

  • Anonymous
    April 3, 2009 at 2:10 pm

    The Girl Version is always better! Thank you for taking the time to keep us posted.

    Praying for everyone!

  • Robin
    April 3, 2009 at 3:42 pm

    Ok..Daddyboy and MaMa need to just move on down here. Tell them we know of a great house for them to buy !!!On a serious note, Thank God Chance is ok..We were all praying around here from The Eastern Shore.

  • Anonymous
    April 3, 2009 at 4:41 pm

    Thanks for the update and I hope the next one is even better! I believe everything happens for a reason and the Lord knew your mom was going to need around and so he sent down the rain to keep her in town for Erika. Still praying for your family in Mississippi.

  • GrannySmithGreen
    April 3, 2009 at 9:18 pm

    Our prayers are with all of you. (and I’m adoring your blog too!) So glad to hear of Chance’s improvements. Hugs to your sister too!

  • Anna
    April 3, 2009 at 11:21 pm

    My heart dropped at the mention of Chance in an accident. My cousin passed away in February in a skiing accident but his wife will soon welcome a new baby in a couple weeks. God is soo good to let us savor precious time with those we love! Sending out some prayers for your family and Erika

  • pve design
    April 4, 2009 at 12:58 am

    You are a great sister and I love how close you two are and that you can keep us all in the loop.
    Prayers and love –

    Do you need any supplies, art or teacher like to help you through this? I am happy to rally and send some for those crumb crunchers.

    April 4, 2009 at 9:26 am

    Praying for Chance and I have put him on our church’s prayer chain…..so happy to hear the news is better…..God is with him and a host of angels too!

  • Posh Pagoda
    April 4, 2009 at 6:12 pm

    Saw a call for prayer on Courtney at In The Loop's blog & wanted to pass along my best wishes & prayers.

  • Jen
    April 5, 2009 at 1:45 am

    It is so crazy how you can feel so connected to someone just from reading their blog. It's impossible to read her blog & not know what an incredibly special person she is.When I heard of Chances accident, my eyes just welled with tears. Erika has provided me with many much needed smiles over the past year, & to think of her & Chance having such a scary,experience just breaks my heart! I am so happy to hear some good news. I will keep them in my prayers.

  • momof3girls
    April 5, 2009 at 4:29 pm

    oh, thank the LORD!!! I always connect with the saying “Life is hard, but God is good!” I hope Chance starts to feel better and that you get some sleep!! Will keep you and your family in my prayers.

  • Leslie
    April 6, 2009 at 7:00 am

    oh no! I didn’t read any blogs over the weekend and I’m just now seeing this (monday morning) Any updates?

  • Sugar and Spice Mommy
    April 6, 2009 at 8:20 am

    Just catching up on your sweet blog! Praise the Lord for the good news! I will continue to pray for your family!

  • Rhoda @ Southern Hospitality
    April 6, 2009 at 12:40 pm

    So glad your BIL is doing better. Prayer changes things as we all know. Praise God!

  • momof3girls
    April 7, 2009 at 12:36 pm

    just wanted to remind you that you and yours are in my prayers!