106 In Faith/ Life

Objects on Screen Not as they Appear

Well, I always think I’ll be here more often than I am. I have intentions of blogging about every other day but then life takes the wheel and I hop in the backseat, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing because I have 3 little ones who need me more than the blog needs me. But I’m so glad y’all liked Darby Doll, I thought she was quite a silly little doll myself and I can assure you’ll she’ll be back.

I finished up Batterson’s book, Primal, did I already tell you that? Probably so! Anyway, I can’t wait to share more with you from the second half but first I wanted to go back to the first half and re-write a paragraph that he has written on page 36. It has to do with going to the mall which I do about once every other year so it didn’t hit home for me from that perspective but if I just change a few words up it hits me at my core and is why I have a love/hate relationship with blogging. I’m taking out the word mall and entering blog.

Have you ever noticed that you can be perfectly content with everything you have, but one trip to the mall blogosphere can ruin all of that? All of a sudden, the clothes in your closet aren’t quite as cool, your decor is out of style, and your new gadgets seem old.  I call it the mall blog effect. {I, Darby, could add a lot more… my house is never that clean, I wish I had that lens, those dishes, that attitude, that relationship with Jesus, I wish I could take pictures like that, I never look that cute, I wish I could get away with my husband like that, I wish my kitchen looked like that, I wish I had the energy she has, I wish I could knit, I wish we got snow like that, I wish I had chickens. . .  I wish, I wish, I wish… ugh, I gross myself out.} 

What happens is this: you focus on everything you don’t have, and it produces feelings of want. Of course, the antidote for this is a trip to a third-world country. Seeing what others don’t have will help you appreciate what you do have.

I do this, more often than I care to admit. Lord Jesus, take me to a third-world country. If I flip the coin over, I can’t help but think do I paint a picture of perfection on the blog from our home? Sometimes comments lead me to believe this and if I do, it is a lie. Please rest assured of that. I try to be real and honest but the reality is, I’d much rather remember and record the good on here so it is what I write and share. Be also assured, that I occassionally show the bad but never the ugly. I think every blog needs a statement in the header: warning objects on screen are not always as they appear. I try to remind myself of that when I read/see something that leads me to think, “I wish…” By His grace, I’ve been spared the heartache that some experience but the reality is we each have our own personal dose of “real life”. The reality is life is hard, no one’s life is a walk in the park and I have to remind myself of Philippians 3:8 daily: What is more, I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them rubbish, that I may gain Christ.

Blogging doesn’t incubate a spirit of humility– which is a whole other can of worms. I so often struggle with what to write and how to say it; to remind myself that I am in this world but not of it. I used to  not think much about what I would write because so few people read. Now I feel like I have to take every thought, every word to the Lord and ask that people not misconstrue what I portray and if they do, that I will let it go and remember that my accountability is to the Lord, my husband, and my family.

Ok…. just a few heavy Friday morning thoughts for you! 🙂 I want to be clear this was not in response to any comment or specific event… it is simply what the Lord has placed on my heart this week. Nor is this a ploy to hear your affirmation in the comments. 🙂

Speaking of this week… it’s been busy, just as every week is. Morgan is begging for some roller skates and before she breaks a leg or a foot we’re going to have to give in, I’ve caught her numerous times this week with her “homemade” skates on…



She cracks me. Her little creative wheels never stop turning… even at lunch time.


She’s been so helpful this week. We are having a few friends over tonight for dinner and as I prepared she was right along side me. She helped me set and decorate the table and I savored every moment we had together. She was so excited about the outcome of our work.  


Our dining room table is really more fitting for 4 to 6 but we thankfully were able to squeeze in 8 place settings. I am not a “formal” entertainer. When we have people over it’s very rare for me to even set the table {my goal is usually to just get the food fixed} but this week we decided to make it special and to think outside of the box as to how we could set the entire table, make it fun and festive and not spend a dime on anything {besides the food of course}… not even on fresh flowers that I wanted oh so bad! I hit a wall on the centerpiece; I wanted it to be special, with candles but still be on the low side so that we are able to see across the table. I resorted to calling Erika for help. She suggested using canning jars because she knows I have a whole slew of them. So, I did, along with a wreath I had in the closet, and a square tray from my sister-in-law that I turned upsidedown.


And I even managed to put a few of my vintage Valentines to good use. The one above with the little girl sewing marks my seat. My husband, or another one of the “hunter” husbands will sit here:


Ok, I must retreat to the kitchen I’ve got a fairly involved menu for tonight, thankfully most of which I’ve already accomplished, just a few loose ends to tie up!

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  • Holly @ Times Two
    February 5, 2010 at 12:42 pm

    Get that girl some skates! After two broken ankles, I can tell you that you want to be careful! What a creative little girl. And I love your table!

  • Holly @ Times Two
    February 5, 2010 at 12:45 pm

    About the blog effect, I completely understand. Let’s just be ourselves. I too show the good and rarely the bad (never the ugly) for the same reason. I’d rather remember the good stuff!

  • Katie
    February 5, 2010 at 12:51 pm

    Posts like these make me want to be like you (when I grow up) even more. You are awesome! And Morgan is SO creative and inventive. Hope your dinner is wonderful :o)

  • Aura
    February 5, 2010 at 12:53 pm

    The grass is always greener, Darby. There are people that pine over your words and images, and wish to live a day in your shoes. We all want to live a day in the shoes of someone prettier than us, richer than us, happier than us. I used to be guilty of this very thing, always wishing I had more or better. But then I realized that if you look for the bad, you will surely find it. If you look for the good, you will always find it, as well. You have a beautiful life, one that is no undoubtedly the object of jealousy for many people, but sometimes people only focus on the beautiful things and don’t understand the work that goes into the life behind the lens and words. Thank you for that reminder, because we all need to find the beauty in our own lives -as imperfect as they all are.

  • Kate Sherrard
    February 5, 2010 at 12:53 pm

    Beautiful entry! I can completely ditto the blog effect. Blog surfing often leaves me wanting more…more stuff, more clothes, more hobbies, more design savvy. Then, I find if I would only enjoy the things I have, take time to actually “do” some of the hobbies then just envying them from afar, I would certainly live a more Christ-centered, full life. Thanks for the reminder!

    I decided to comment because I too am hosting a small informal dinner party tonight (8 guests, as well, crammed around a table that should also seat 6:). So I loved seeing your ideas for setting the table. I’ve already got some settings out but I’m inspired to think about a centerpiece. All of those attending have children or children on the way, so I think it would be a treat to have a special dinner with a little extra ambience. Hope things go smoothly for you tonight!


  • Melissa (melissab74)
    February 5, 2010 at 12:59 pm

    I can’t believe I’m the first commenter! (A nice benefit of taking a personal leave day today!) I understand what you’re saying about the blogging, and of course, you blog about things you want to remember, which are usually good things! But actually, one thing I’m getting from reading other people’s blogs is that I’m not in this alone, it’s not just me or my family that does…whatever. Of course we want to show only the good side and most people’s posts are going to be good things, but those little snippets where we show the REAL day to day junk that goes on in our lives…that’s where the encouragement part comes into blogging, I think. (In re-reading my comments, I don’t think I’m making any sense at all, but anyway…)I guess my point is this…keep giving us the good stuff…the things that inspire us, make us laugh, etc., but you always seem to post just the right amount of the boring, day-to-day real life. I think you have found a nice balance, and that’s what makes your blog so popular. Who would want to read every single day about crying kids, spilled milk, toys strewn all over the house, and Momma complaining about all of it? We all know those things go on in every house that has children, but it’s much more fun to read about the projects you’re working on, etc. I have a used-to-be close friend, now more of an acquaintance, and every time I see her, she’s always complaining about the mess her kids made or how her husband didn’t help her at home, etc. It has gotten to the point that I really don’t enjoy being around her that much. So, I think the key is to keep that balance you’ve found…we know you’re REAL! Love you, girl!

  • Melissa (melissab74)
    February 5, 2010 at 1:01 pm

    Well, I thought I was the first. Apparently while I was writing that novel, some others beat me to it! 🙂

  • E @ Oh! Apostrophe
    February 5, 2010 at 1:01 pm

    Darby, you are so sweet. All days (but today especially!) your blog is so lovely- both in the serious and the not-so-serious! Thank you for making us all think, and appreciate, and know that you do such a good job of showing your true intentions!

  • Katie
    February 5, 2010 at 1:03 pm

    Her homemade skates made me smile. She is so creative!! Good luck with your dinner party. The table looks great.

  • Lori H
    February 5, 2010 at 1:07 pm

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts today. I don’t have a blog, but enjoy reading them and when I catch myself thinking wistfully about someone else’s life/house/vacation, I am quick to remember that all lives are imperfect. And I do think I have a wonderful life even if it isn’t captured on camera as faithfully as the bloggers have! Your children are beautiful, while being real kids.
    Any chance you would share your dinner menu once its over? I love to see what other people do for a dinner party. Especially casual ones.

  • Sarah
    February 5, 2010 at 1:13 pm

    I’m so guilty of this. I do it all the time… I just looked at your centerpiece and thought how does she do it?!

    I know you are human and that you have flaws and your life does too. My life is so ridiculously imperfect that I seek blogs to reaffirm my faith that there is still so much “good” out there and I always need inspiration. Sounds strange, right?! Your blog is good… it’s great. You are a lucky lady to have the wonderful family that fills each picture and story you write. We all know that nobody is perfect. I hate that we are always in competition with each other and instead of stepping back and looking at the life that is in front of us, we seek better AND…

    I’m guilty, guilty, guilty.

    Love the Darby doll. Can’t wait for her next appearance!

  • jessica
    February 5, 2010 at 1:22 pm

    I discovered your blog a couple of months ago and I just want to tell you how much it has been an encouragement to me (especially this last post) in the Lord. I have grown up in a christian home and after the Lord pursueing me, drawing me ever so gently back to Him, I turned to follow him more closely than ever before (this was a few years ago). I know several that I grew up with in fellowship that now seem to be swallowed up in the world – perfect careers, perfect children and family life, having all these things. Everyday the Lord reminds me that this world and all that is in it will just pass away – that I need to look to the eternal things and not the temporal. I am so thankful to Him that He keeps me looking towards Him even though I constantly feel the pressure to want better things and a better life. So thankyou for sharing what the Lord is showing you – it is wonderful to have fellowship even thousand of miles away!
    And also I am encouraged that you use alot of Scripture in your blog and how important that is to be grounded in His Word – I do appreciate it.

  • Tara
    February 5, 2010 at 1:24 pm

    you have a fabulous way of describing just how I feel…
    I don’t have a lot of readers but I do stress over the content of my blog…
    it is meant to capture moments, usually sweet ones, that I want to remember or share…
    I too find myself wanting those things that inspire me or some talented woman has crafted even though I should be content with what I have…
    i want to knit…
    i love this post so much…
    enjoy your dinner!

  • Zoe
    February 5, 2010 at 1:25 pm

    Oh, this was so refreshing to read. I have felt the same way – that everyone else in blog-land is so put-together, with perfect kids, perfect homes, perfect hair, endless energy and creativity, etc etc etc. It is hard not to compare my boring little self to others, and feel pretty lacking. So I am SO HAPPY to read that you have not reached perfection yet either. 🙂 Thanks for your honesty and transparency. Your blog is one of my favorites!

  • Zoe
    February 5, 2010 at 1:27 pm

    p.s. love those adorable place-card holders! where did you get them?

  • jennifer page
    February 5, 2010 at 1:29 pm

    My kids also have done this with legos. On another note, so true how we need to be thankful for what we have and not “want” so much for what we don’t.. I love, love, love your blog. From one stay-at-home mom to another. Thank you for the support!!

  • Kathy
    February 5, 2010 at 1:29 pm

    The feelings you just expressed are the reason I enjoy your blog as much as I do…a lot! Thank you so much for doing this. Enjoy your dinner this evening!

  • Ashley M. [at] (never home)maker
    February 5, 2010 at 1:30 pm

    Hello, I’m new to your site . . . but I’m already falling in love. And you’re def. making ME feel like what you wrote in that paragraph. Look at your lovely kids, your photos, EVERYTHING 🙂 But it’s not all bad. We all strive to do the best we can. And you’re rocking it <3

  • jen hunt
    February 5, 2010 at 1:30 pm

    your blog is delightfully refreshing. thanks for sharing your heart!

  • Lauren
    February 5, 2010 at 1:31 pm

    Thanks to for sharing your thoughts Darby. I too struggle with comparing my life with someone elses. Why is it so hard for our flesh nature to be content? Your honesty has made me look at myself and see if my heart is walking in truth. i’m not much of a mall person either (babies prevent that) but Target is a real struggle for me 🙂 I love that store!! Thankfully the closest one is 45 minutes away. Hope your dinner goes well! What are you serving tonight??

  • Donna
    February 5, 2010 at 1:31 pm

    Great post…I must say that I love reading your blog for the spiritual aspect as well as the home, sewing, kitchen posts, etc… because I think we can live out our faith in the day to day ordinary things we do – I think you reflect that without saying much at all! Love the homemade skates, very impressive!

  • Amber
    February 5, 2010 at 1:44 pm

    This is my first comment on your blog, but I have been reading along for a while now. Just wanted to say I loved this post. I often need to be reminded that everyone has difficulties, stuggles, and just plain boring days!

    I love your blog. It is uplifting and inspirational in more ways than one. Thanks for sharing your life with us!

  • Sarah
    February 5, 2010 at 1:45 pm

    She is a creative little lady. Lego’s as roller skates. Kids have the best imaginations.

  • Jen
    February 5, 2010 at 1:46 pm

    This is so real and right. I only put the ‘pretty’ on my blog as well and I think thats ok. It keeps me going because we all of course know what goes on behind the doors of homes with real jobs, real babies, real husbands, real laundry rooms, real kitchens, etc….. ‘pretty’ pictures inspire and encourage in my opinion! Your table looks sweet. I am having a dinner party at my house next week and am also trying to tablescape and not spend. It is so much funnier this way I think!

  • Jen
    February 5, 2010 at 1:47 pm

    P.S.-I hear you about the mall. I stay out of it unless its cold and I need a place to stroll my baby!

  • Brooke G.
    February 5, 2010 at 1:52 pm

    Ohhhhh – i hear you on the “blog effect” I was just thinking last night that my bloggers block is partial due to just what you are talking about. I start feeling totally inadequate with every word I type. Maybe I need to stop reading so many other blogs – HA! 🙂 Have a good weekend, enjoy your dinner (the table looks great!) and don’t be so hard on yourself!!!!

  • Sarah
    February 5, 2010 at 1:55 pm

    Thanks for the insightful post. I don’t have a blog, yet, but the world web has become just another place for me to face my sin. Oh and we got my son the Step 2 skates for Christmas and they’ve been a big hit. I found them at TJ Maxx for a steal. Although he has been skating around the house more than outside due to how FREEZING its been:) Have fun tonight, the table looks perfect.

  • Amy
    February 5, 2010 at 1:57 pm

    Oh THANK YOU for mentioning that beginning part about the blogging. As a pastor’s wife, I struggle soooo much with this. Sometimes I get so sick of talking about myself and my kids, my walk with God, my house, my kitchen, blah blah, that sometimes I wonder if I am even being Christlike.

    “Blogging doesn’t incubate a spirit of humility.” Whoa. So right on. I’m praying that somehow I can blend humility within my blog SOMEWHERE. 🙂 I’ll say a little prayer for you as well…although it seems you are doing a fab job already.

    God bless, and hope you guys have a wonderful dinner. It looks like fun! 🙂


  • ib73
    February 5, 2010 at 2:08 pm

    I always enjoy your blog but you have really touched me today. I too am the person Batterson is speaking of in this passage. This is probably why I’ve avoided the mall for the past few years. This may also be the reason I avoid my friends as much as I do now. See, just like my friends I graduated college but I am not as successful or well to do. I find myself hating the person I’ve grown up to be after I spend time with them; nothing I have or am is good enough once I make it home. My friends all seem to living out the professional dream I once had for myself and I feel like a looser for it. Nevertheless, I have a good husband and great children and often take this for granted; especially after leaving the “mall” of my life because I don’t have all the “stuff” I want or think I need in order to be happy. Thanks for making me think twice about what I’ve been doing. My girlfriend is having a birthday dinner next week and I thought about sending my regrets but, I think I’ll go. It might be good for me. Also, I will be getting this book and continuing my search for God and for peace with myself.

  • Leslie
    February 5, 2010 at 2:14 pm

    This is completely unrelated, but do you watch Lost? It doesn’t really seem like it’s in your wheelhouse. Anyways, has anyone ever pointed out that one of the characters, Jacob, is your husband’s doppelganger?


  • Mandy
    February 5, 2010 at 2:23 pm

    Cute table setting….Lord, we all struggle with the wants…I was thinking that no other time period in history have people had the access to see it all…via online shopping, blogs and all the advanced technological communication devices and I think it creates a desire for “things” that is unhealthy and robs us of the preciousness of the moment and the blessings we already have. I am go guilty of this and it is refreshing to take a look around, take a break, use what you have and be content…it sure is a discipline..thanks for sharing…you are not alone! Have a good weekend! Mandy

  • Lauren
    February 5, 2010 at 2:28 pm

    What a great and timely post!! I found myself having a mini-meltdown just this morning (since I’m snowed in in DC, with plenty of time to think), I know I have so many wonderful things in my life, but every time I turn around, see things in the mall, or read about others’ lives in blogs, I find myself longing for a life or things that I just don’t have right now. I know the good Lord with bring each of them to me in time, and I will eventually be blessed with a wonderful, happy marriage and family, I just need to learn to be content with what He has given me now and to know that the rest will come on His time, not my own. Anyways, I think I’m rambling, but just wanted to say thank you for such a great post. I feel like i’m not alone in my frustrations and aspirations!

  • Alana @ Gray Matters
    February 5, 2010 at 2:29 pm

    I used to feel the same way about blogging. I decided instead of letting it upset me because I wasn’t “as creative” as other bloggers, I would turn it around and use blogs as motivation and encouragement. By following creative bloggers, I have learned how to sew, am beginning to learn to use my camera and am starting to enjoy cooking (a little). Thanks for sharing your heart, and I think Morgan has learned a lot from her mommy!

  • Rhonda
    February 5, 2010 at 2:29 pm

    I loved your post! I’m glad to have the reassurance that I’m not the only one that suffers from the “blog effect.” About the whole overanalyzing what you write for fear of how it will be construed – I have a PRIVATE blog that only family and friends read and I STILL do that 🙂 Blog on, girl!

  • Lillian
    February 5, 2010 at 2:31 pm

    ::This is me nodding about the blog (and mall) effect!::

  • Kim
    February 5, 2010 at 2:32 pm

    Thank you for your honesty. I can relate.

  • LeAna
    February 5, 2010 at 2:32 pm

    i’m relatively new to the blogging world…but have recently discovered your’s and i love it! i can so relate in ways to your life, thoughts and beliefs! anyway…your entry today…i feel like you are 100% speaking my heart!! my greatest struggle and prayer while beginning my blog is that in seeing the “small snippets” my readers (although very few right now 🙂 would never forget that there is a much bigger picture behind it all…one that is not at all pretty and that is hard to share! but what freedom it brings when we can be honest about being a big fat sinners who have nothing together apart from the grace of God, all the while hoping that it might offer a glimmer of encouragement to someone else to be free too!! so thanks for the encouragement that i am not the lone ranger in feeling the way i do, and that living in freedom and reality is far better than just painting a pretty picture!

  • Catherine
    February 5, 2010 at 2:49 pm

    thank you for this post. too often i find myself comparing— and there is no comparison. each of our lives and situations is completely personal, no matter what it looks like on the outside. your posts ALWAYS resonate with me. you have a definite gift for sharing and i am so grateful that you do share. i hope you don’t censor too much—- i think that is what makes your blog posts less frequent? delete those comments that are negative or preachy because you inspire, encourage and uplift SO many people with your posts! i also think there are so, so, so many more readers who can’t or don’t post comments but are just as encouraged as those of us that do… thank you for putting yourself and your thoughts out there! you’re the best! xxCCB

  • Catherine
    February 5, 2010 at 2:49 pm

    thank you for this post. too often i find myself comparing— and there is no comparison. each of our lives and situations is completely personal, no matter what it looks like on the outside. your posts ALWAYS resonate with me. you have a definite gift for sharing and i am so grateful that you do share. i hope you don’t censor too much—- i think that is what makes your blog posts less frequent? delete those comments that are negative or preachy because you inspire, encourage and uplift SO many people with your posts! i also think there are so, so, so many more readers who can’t or don’t post comments but are just as encouraged as those of us that do… thank you for putting yourself and your thoughts out there! xxCCB

  • Catherine
    February 5, 2010 at 2:50 pm

    thank you for this post. too often i find myself comparing— and there is no comparison. each of our lives and situations is completely personal, no matter what it looks like on the outside. your posts ALWAYS resonate with me. you have a definite gift for sharing and i am so grateful that you do share. i hope you don’t censor too much—- i think that is what makes your blog posts less frequent? delete those comments that are negative or preachy because you inspire, encourage and uplift SO many people with your posts! i also think there are so, so, so many more readers who can’t or don’t post comments but are just as encouraged as those of us that do… thank you for putting yourself and your thoughts out there! xxCCBthank you for this post. too often i find myself comparing— and there is no comparison. each of our lives and situations is completely personal, no matter what it looks like on the outside. your posts ALWAYS resonate with me. you have a definite gift for sharing and i am so grateful that you do share. i hope you don’t censor too much—- i think that is what makes your blog posts less frequent? delete those comments that are negative or preachy because you inspire, encourage and uplift SO many people with your posts! i also think there are so, so, so many more readers who can’t or don’t post comments but are just as encouraged as those of us that do… thank you for putting yourself and your thoughts out there! xxCCB

  • Catherine
    February 5, 2010 at 2:52 pm

    good grief! it never looked like it was posting…sorry about the m-u-l-t-i-p-l-e posts! lol… only hitting the submit button once this time!

  • Cha Cha
    February 5, 2010 at 3:02 pm

    Thank you for being so honest, you are a blessing. I struggle with all of your thoughts and so many more that I can add to the list. It is nice to hear your side because it is easy to look at the glimpse we see and think that you don’t have a pile of laundry pushed just out of the picture. I just started Beth Moores new book So Long Insecurity, not that I need it (hahahha). I think when I finish it I will read this book. I beg you to please bring back the doll, I have never laughed that hard at a blog post.

    Cha Cha

  • julie
    February 5, 2010 at 3:07 pm

    loved your blog today … so relate-able. its nice to know other people feel the same way in so many areas of life.

  • Taylor
    February 5, 2010 at 3:07 pm

    Thank you for sharing how you feel about “the blog effect.” I feel exactly the same way. I have been follwing many blogs (yours included) for a while, but I recently started my own blog. I sometimes feel self-conscious about my blog. I tend to wish that I had the same decor, same house, same time, same body, and same style as some of the bloggers out there. I know that’s not healthy, and I’m learning not to put so much pressure on myself. I’m just me, and that’s the best I can be.
    Also, thanks for sharing snippets of your life with us. I always enjoy reading your posts. I hope to someday be as good of a mom as you are.

    P.S. Where did you get the placecard holders? So cute!

  • Shauna
    February 5, 2010 at 3:08 pm

    Your post really spoke to me. While I know you were allowing the Lord to shape you in this post, I want to encourage you that you really do a good job of showing the highs & lows, and placing a realistic version of yourself online. You are funny and creative and fabulous. And that shows… you can’t hide who you are. But your struggles with sin and life also show. Those who get envious (I count myself among the guilty sometimes)need to sort that out because “nothing outside a man can cause a man to sin.” I don’t think anyone who reads your blog could honestly classify you as a stumbling block.

    Please don’t stop blogging the way you do, because it would be like canceling my favorite TV show or something. 🙂

  • Design Esquire
    February 5, 2010 at 3:15 pm

    I needed this post today. Thank you. I find that blogs are a blessing, because I meet so many talented and good people and I learn so much from each of them. The darker side is that I do want more than I think I otherwise would. Although, to be honest I’ve learned a lot about crafts and repurposing things. In particular, I probably wouldn’t have bought chairs off of craigslist to paint and reupholster, etc. I need to learn how to absorb the beneficial posts, and let the other ones go.

    Another downside of blogs for me is the amount of time I spend reading them. I’ve started posting less on mine and trying to read blogs a few times a week to get caught up instead of everyday. I don’t want to come home from work and log on to the computer, I want to spend time with my husband. So, I’m trying to do a better job balancing it out. Blogs are addicting though.

  • eringirl
    February 5, 2010 at 3:28 pm

    What wonderful inspiration for table decorations! I love them!

  • Elaine
    February 5, 2010 at 3:31 pm

    Props to sharing 2 sides 🙂 When I find myself wishing, wanting and wasting away about other’s and things (which is embarassingly a lot) I think about what problems they might face daily underneath. Then I think, never mind! I’ll keep my life. God equips us to handle only what he knows we can- he gives us gifts that he knows can touch lives when we share them.
    This is definitely a gift of yours so you should share it! I am also ever aware of the media crazed life we live in and not to get too addicted to it. Don’t be too hard on yourself!

  • Tara
    February 5, 2010 at 3:34 pm

    The exact reason I shop online, you get only the exact thing you need (ha, right?) But looking into…your window makes me COVET YOUR CAMERA to take great pictures of my wonderful life the Lord has given me too. Whatever is good, think on these things. You don’t have to share the bad or ugly…we saw your hair yesterday, we know. (haha)

  • Megan
    February 5, 2010 at 3:38 pm

    I really think Morgan looks just like you, but with lighter coloring!

  • beckyBrodbeck
    February 5, 2010 at 3:53 pm

    Love the title of this post! So true and such a good reminder. Love you and your perspective! Happy Hosting…I think you should share your menu for the evening on another post. Blessings!!

  • Laura
    February 5, 2010 at 3:54 pm

    Thank you for your words and blog honesty! I don’t have a blog but so enjoy yours (and others) and especially today have found myself wanting what others in blogland have – todays item of choice is kitchens…beautiful, classic, white kitchens. I’ve been down in the dump because I know it will be months, er years, before I save the money to create the kitchen of my dreams but this made me realize I should stop and be grateful for they many things I do have! Your are a blessing! Enjoy your dinner tonight and your weekend! (And I still find your kitchen gorgeous!!)

  • Hannah Fields
    February 5, 2010 at 3:54 pm

    Darby, I am always encouraged by the sweet rose colored lenses you use when blogging. everyone (most people) know that life with three young ones is quite the stressful one. I LOVE that you capture the good in your children. Its good for the kids and it keeps the mommies and daddys laughing instead of crying. Thank you for reminding me of Phil 3:8 what an awesome passage. I am so thankful for Gods word. I am always so thankful for sweet encouragement. You minister to me all the time sister. love you, hannah

  • Lindsey
    February 5, 2010 at 3:58 pm

    amen friend. had a lot of these same thoughts this morning as i went to the book store and old navy for the first “alone” time i’ve had in two weeks… elle got roller skates for christmas and has really loved them. i’ll try to email you which ones they are. she is very creative!

  • Amanda Thrasher
    February 5, 2010 at 4:02 pm

    IF you’ll come up with the 3rd World country to visit I’ll be your chaperone. I’m sure through the blogosphere we could raise funds to go and probably take crates full of necessities for folks that need “stuff” more than us. think on it.

  • Liz
    February 5, 2010 at 4:11 pm

    Your girls are silly! I have a 6 and 3 year old and they always come up with something so out of the world. 🙂
    I have been enjoying reading your blog!
    Saying hi from Texas!!

  • Ginger
    February 5, 2010 at 4:13 pm

    Darby, I love your blog and appreciate your honesty! It is a joy to read and I find it very inspiring, as a Christian and a mommy, wife, friend, etc…It gives new meaning and validation to being a stay at home mommy. So thank you. P.S. Love the home made skates. I did that with string and soup cans for stilts when I was little (like Ramona Quimby). Imagination is a beautiful thing!

  • Betsy
    February 5, 2010 at 4:41 pm

    you should host a blog party that’s something like “Reveal Your True Life” and bloggers can link disastrous pics/stories, like cooking disasters, what their family rooms really look like, a pic of an especially bad hair day, etc…everyone would feel better about themselves and their imperfect lives, and get a good laugh!

    Thanks for the “blog effect” wisdom, it’s easy to slip into envy when you’re just browsing for inspiration!

  • Jean Anfindsen
    February 5, 2010 at 4:43 pm

    Your humility and honestly is inspiring. It is obvious that you have Jesus living in your heart. I remind myself daily to hang on loosely, that we are just passing through. God uses everything – (even our mistakes) when we ask him to use it for his glory and our good. I believe that he is using your blog for “a lot of good!”
    Blessing to you and your family~

  • Paula
    February 5, 2010 at 4:46 pm

    Oh, I hear you! I’ve learned that a good blog for me to read is one that spurs me to turn off the computer and go play with my kids, take more sacrificial care of my husband, work more earnestly at housework and more desperately seek to sit at God’s feet.
    I love your blog and your camera lenses definitely paint a pretty picture–I’m glad you frequently offer disclaimers, though! There’s a tension between showing only the best of ourselves (the mask) and taking off the mask and being transparent without being needlessly negative and sharing too much! Anyway, I’m officially de-lurking, and the Fischer Price skates are great for learning to skate!

  • Anne
    February 5, 2010 at 5:02 pm

    I know the feeling that you call the “blog/mall effect”….I have visited houses of friends/family and found myself thinking “I wish I had__________________…and feeling a little,sorry, for lack of a better word, for myself…but my solution has always been to come home
    and start looking around at all the things I DO have and don’t need/use most of the time. I start bagging it up for the Sharing Center and I usually feel much better. We all just need a little reality check every now and then. Enjoy your dinner party…love the valentines!

  • Amber
    February 5, 2010 at 5:02 pm

    The lego skates are hilarious! And very creative!
    And you totally nailed it with the blog effect! Thank you so much for putting this into words and reminding us all of His bigger picture.

  • Sherri
    February 5, 2010 at 5:05 pm

    Thank you SO much for being transparent and writing about this! I can totally relate, and I just wanted you to know that God really used your words in my life today.

  • b
    February 5, 2010 at 5:13 pm

    Darby, you do a fine job of creating a beautiful home for your family. The pressure to do it all and get all right is with mothers everyday. I read many, many blogs encompassing my varied interests.
    Yours is one of the few that has the disclaimer. No need to explain or apologize. This comment is from someone with a grown family and a different perspective. Happy Valentine’s Day! (a bit early)

  • Heather
    February 5, 2010 at 5:19 pm

    This is my first time commenting and I just wanted to thank you for sharing so many of the thoughts that I mull over on a near daily basis. The struggle for me is always for humility and contentment in my world of many blessings. It’s a daily prayer.

    Thanks for sharing. How I wish I could get my rowdy crew together with yours and get to know you. Keep fighting the good fight!

  • Scattering Lupines
    February 5, 2010 at 5:58 pm

    ooohhh…. I hope we’ll get to hear about the menu!

    I find your blog very spiritually inspiring, uplifting, and REAL!

    Thank you for all you put into it– your energy, prayer, and creativity is so appreciated!

  • Cousin
    February 5, 2010 at 6:25 pm

    Great post D! Morgan is absolutely hilarious with her “skates!” I love her little imagination. We all always wish our lives would be better if…all sorts of things. I too always remind myself of so many people who have no home or money or faith and on and on. I know you have a beautiful heart and never would want anyone to think you were anything but greatful. I’m proud to have you as my family:) I love and miss you all! Have a great dinner party! Sounds fun!

  • hush
    February 5, 2010 at 6:33 pm

    Delurking to say thank you for putting yourself out there & for making the time. You weren’t fishing for admiration. I know, but you have mine! i wish I could be as charming, as tan, as freakin’ beautiful, as thin, as stylish, and as Southern belle-ish as you! And I am so jealous of your perfect looking family! And the healthy relationships with your amazing extended family that you have, and the strong marriages you witnessed growing up! Not all of us have been as blessed – but you already know it. 🙂

  • Mary Catherine
    February 5, 2010 at 7:02 pm

    I totally agree about the love/hate relationship with blogging and reading other people’s blogs. As my Bible study leader (a very very wise older lady) always reminds us, “COMPARISON is the DEATH of CONTENTMENT.” I have to remind myself of that about 376 times a day! 🙂 And making comparisons always leads to sin because we either #1) think we are better than the other person (PRIDE) or #2) want what they have (COVET).

  • natalie @ our old southern house
    February 5, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    oh darby, i’ve had the same thing happen to me over and over again. i’ve been blogging for 5 years and i constantly wondering if i’m boasting or not portraying our life accurately. and i, too, feel the envy in so many things. ‘oh, i wish i could be creative as her’ or ‘oh, i wish i had marble countertops like her’, etc. etc. i covet so many things and i struggle with it daily.
    anyway, i just wanted to say i totally feel what you’re saying and you’re so not alone in the struggle.
    i enjoy reading your blog so much…in fact, just yesterday i made one of those terry cloth toppers to go on top of my dishwasher like you made back in the fall. LOVE IT!

  • Kate
    February 5, 2010 at 8:25 pm

    I don’t comment often, but I love reading your blog. And while I certainly understand the sense of discontent that reading some blogs (or magazines, or even catalogs) can bring on, reading your blog doesn’t make me feel that way. Your blog makes me feel inspired and uplifted. Your posts are filled with the love you have for your family and the humility and humor with which you approach life. I am so grateful for the opportunity to peek into your home and find the encouragement, fellowship, and inspiration you offer. So I hope you don’t feel any guilt about the way you portray your life in your blog. Your taking the time to share is appreciated.

  • mag
    February 5, 2010 at 8:50 pm

    First, your table is lovely as is Morgan. Second, isnt it human nature (right or wrong) to want things to be better than they are? I remind myself of this everyday- that I am blessed in so many ways and should want for nothing. Third, I kinda like that you show us (honestly) your good with the bad. We are assaulted everyday with images of the horrors of the world. But this is my place that I come for a little happiness and a dose of sisterhood in motherhood! I love the blog, dont change a thing!!

  • Dianne
    February 5, 2010 at 8:51 pm

    Lucky, lucky dinner guests!!!!

  • Victoria
    February 5, 2010 at 10:39 pm

    I do appreciate your being “real” on your blog. It made my day when you talked about how you bought the girls dresses (maybe last years Easter dresses?) at a consignment shop and then pulled out the monogram threads and how that having company over on Mon nights helps you keep the house clean, etc.

    At first glance one might think you have a “perfect” life and we might even deign to be like you, but you do remind us of the real life messes and hurdles that you go through and thankfully I come away from your blog inspired knowing that you are just another Mother making her way in life and sharing it with us.

  • LeAnn
    February 5, 2010 at 11:06 pm

    love your post. this is something i struggle with too. blogs can make you get a case of the “i wants…” sometimes i gross myself out too…thanks for always being so honest in your posts!

  • Stephanie
    February 6, 2010 at 12:45 am

    Hey Darby,
    We emailed back and forth about our SoIL connection a few months ago. I don’t comment much, but do stalk everytime you post. I don’t know if I told you this in my email or not, but I stuck to your blog because of your humble, transparent spirit. When I first started reading your blog, I really didn’t know much about the blog world, I just knew someone had mentioned your hairbow tutorial and I was sick of paying so much for hairbows:).

    Anyway, your post about being transparent as a Christian from a year ago inspired me to talk to women that I had previously been intimidated by (because of all your aforementioned issues) and start a bible study (even with some of those women) to get real before the Lord and each other. YOU did that for me! You were a vessel for the Lord. We now have around 12 women who meet every week during preschool whom I believe are growing closer to our Father because of the nudging I felt while reading your blog.

    Keep up your transparency, your sweet spirit and the pics of your beautiful children. I think my oldest really thinks that she is friends with your girls because she has looked at their pics so much 🙂 This is your Judea (Act 1:8)…please be encouraged to just speak your heart…whether it’s your best day or your worst. You are making a difference!

  • Laura
    February 6, 2010 at 1:50 am

    Darby: I fall somewhere in age between you and your Mother. I’ve been reading your blog for almost a year, and I have to tell you I have enjoyed it immensly. I can’t imagine how challenging it must be to try to do all you can for your family, and make the time and effort to share your thoughts and ideas with everyone out in the blogging world. I think most of us realize that things are not perfect in anyone’s life, and we may get overwhelmed or yell occasionally, or have an untidy home.. I do remember when I was a young mother feeling defeated by never quite measuring up to others who seemed much more capable than myself. Time, life experiences, age, or maturity (who really knows which) have made me more forgiving of myself. The things I thought important before – not so much anymore. I can only do what I can manage… Being a good person, a loving wife, and mother are most important. The rest; well, it will sort itself out. I remember you writing about how wonderful it was to have your mother visiting, because she reassured you that what you
    were doing a good job, and told you that what you were doing was hard work. I bet she’d say the same thing now. I hope you can be a little kinder to yourself as well. As for the mall; well, there always be something out there we desire..:)

  • Rebecca Beebe
    February 6, 2010 at 5:21 am

    I have been following your enchanting blog for several months now. I am an Auburn Grad and have family that lives in the Panhandle of Florida (you fly out of the airport just west of the small town where my parents live and my husband and I grew up), so I feel like we are kindred spirits. My 3 boys are now teenagers and practically out of the nest. I remember the days of trying to get it all together and wondering how other “perfect” moms did it. My mother told me then (and she has been so right) that time spent with the boys was precious and a gift and I would never look back and wish I had just spent a little more time doing housework. Your transparency is inspirational, and judging by the comments, you touch a broad range of women. Your words about comparing ourselves to others in the blog world is a gentle reminder for all of us here in the US to count our blessings as we realize the suffering of so many others in the world. Thanks Darby! (and WAR EAGLE!)

  • allison
    February 6, 2010 at 7:56 am

    This hits home. I suffer from the “I wants”. So much so that sometimes I just won’t read blogs because in some ways it does make you feel like you (and your stuff) are just not good enough (perfect). Of course these feelings are stupid, but they are real.

    Two things…one is I heard that you should not read beauty magazines as they will only make you feel ugly…and now I think to myself I should not read home blogs (or read home magazines!!) because they make you feel like you live in a dump! LOL. Not really. I don’t live in a dump and I’m not ugly, but you get the idea…

    And the last thing is something my mom told me a long time ago…some people will always have more than you, some people will always have less…it’s true, it’s why I work and try very hard to keep my life in perspective. It’s the only one I’ve got and I don’t want to live feeling inferior because of stupid “things”. I am so fortunate to have a happy, healthy family and that is all that truly matters.

    “Stuff” is fun though:)

  • Meredith
    February 6, 2010 at 8:10 am

    Darby, thank you for sharing. This is a constant struggle for me as well on a few different levels. My “word” for 2010 is thankful – one meaning being trying to be thankful for the things I do have and not focus so much on the things I do not have. Hope your dinner party went well last night! That table looked great!!

  • Beth
    February 6, 2010 at 8:48 am

    I found your entry very interesting. Blogs have made me feel more grateful for what I have. I’ve been trying to write a blog and have struggled to keep it positive and in the end it has made me realize how much I have. I am always looking for the good to put out into the blog world. And now I’m findiing more good to report. I have had a long year of learning to be grateful and this blog world has truly helped.

  • Karen Jo Moseley
    February 6, 2010 at 8:56 am

    Oh, Darb! You are so Precious! You should see the BIG smile that comes across my face when I see “FLY THROUGH OUR WINDOW” in my emails! I just know that I’m in for a treat! I say that with much fondness. I am a Blogaholic. There…I said it! I follow around …ummm…100. Okay, maybe 60, but you, along with two others are my ALL TIME Favorites. You are doing well, with your Blog, your very beautiful photography (I’d give my right leg for that camera of yours!! Nope, not the leg, It’s the only one I have to stand on!)

    And, YOU, my Friend, are an OLD SHOE person! Yep! You fit perfectly the first time I tried you on, so to speak. You were soft and didn’t rub the wrong way. I didn’t feel like you had to be broken in to become comfortable. You are just comfy and can be worn all the time with no fear of blisters or pain.

    I LOVE the photos on your Mall…err BLOG! I was especially moved by Morgan’s skates, but I love the little painted fingernails…complete with a little dirt under them! See? That’s comfortable! You just let her be who she is.

    Oh, have I told you yet, that I LOVE your Blog! And, You? Keep up the GREAT job!

    With Love from Jesus and Jo!

  • Melanie
    February 6, 2010 at 9:45 am

    Thank you Darby for this post. I think we all struggle with these same thoughts from time to time (I know I do and have lately but I will blame it on this depressing weather). I definitely fall into a trap when I start to compare my life to others. Anyhoo I think we just all need to remember to pray that we always try to be the best “me” and not use others and their things to judge the path God has created for us personally. We all can learn from each other and I know you motivate me in so many ways so thank you! Hope you have a great weekend!

  • Angela Short
    February 6, 2010 at 10:16 am

    “Darby Doll” you are absolutely precious!! I love your heart and I am sure that everytime the Lord looks down on you he smiles with great joy! I am so thankful that God has allowed our paths to cross. I love and appreciate your humility. It only adds to your inward and outward beauty. Although I must say if I were as talented and beautiful as you are it would be hard to stay humble:) Have a great weekend. love, angela

  • Bonnie
    February 6, 2010 at 10:28 am

    WOW… great post! I had been suffering with complainning and not satisfied with “my stuff” and so my wise and dear husband suggested that we take a small missions trip to Mexico to buy/build a house for a family last month. Well, needless to say, I got a spiritual spanking! We built a small 12 x 12 house for a family of four. The wife was so thrilled, she kept saying, “it is so beautiful”. It really put things in perspective for me. I’m now starting a journal, in which each day I write something I’m thankful for. I am so blessed and I have a great home here on earth and in heaven!
    PS… love your blog page, I check daily!

  • michelle
    February 6, 2010 at 11:09 am

    Hi Darby..I have been reading your blog for about a couple of months now and love it and I am so inspired by it. I am a stay at home mom who came by your blog via my sister in law’s blog who had a link to jennie-marie’s blog who linked to erika’s who linked to yours! whew! Your kids are beautiful, and your faith in our Lord is so evident. I completely understand your post today and often find myself “wishing” and “wanting” and then I wake up! Geez. I have all more than I could want..My God has blessed me BEYOND what I could ever deserve. I have an amazing husband who would climb up to get the moon for me if I wanted it…TWO BEAUTIFUL children who bring me joy every minute of my life (even when they don’t appreciate me and have no idea how much I do for them!). I have a wonderful comfortable place to call home, great friends, and an awesome church! Yes I want want want..but really it doesn’t matter. Thanks so much for your honesty and your inspiration!

  • Page Russell
    February 6, 2010 at 11:34 am

    Love this. How true it is too. I often start feeling my confidence waning when I start surfing around on all these creative blogs, seeing all that you and others do so much better than me. But then I’m reminded that God wants me to use my own gifts and personality for His glory and trust Him to honor that. Thank you for the beautiful post. I love to read others’ comments on here too and see what a light and inspiration you are to so many women. Thank you for sharing your gifts!!

  • amy jupin
    February 6, 2010 at 11:41 am

    darby, you are so right. so many times i find myself thinking the exact thoughts you spoke about and feeling the exact feelings you feel. i think part of it is human nature. part of it is lots of other things too, dangerous things like self-doubt, self-pity, etc. i often look to some blogs, like yours, as a reminder to savor the little things in life, to find beauty in the every day, to remember that God is in control and oh so good. thank you for the refresher! and for being so honest and lovely. have a great weekend!

  • Andrea
    February 6, 2010 at 3:54 pm

    ugh it so hard to be in the world and not of the world. My husband told me just the other day to stop torturing myself by looking at blogs. Some women and families just don’t seem real. Like they seriously have it ALL together!

    There are certain things that happen in our lives that God allows to bring us back to His reality. We had to take our 2 year old son to the ER on Thursday night-his fever was almost 104 and they thought he might have phenomena (he just had a respiratory virus and is doing much better). The whole time I was there I kept thanking the Lord for hospitals! It is so amazing to me that we have a place to bring our children to help get better. Can you believe that some children and babies don’t have that option? It just sucks.

    Thanks for your post. I appreciate your heart behind it!

  • Sara H
    February 6, 2010 at 4:23 pm

    Darby, I so appreciate your honesty and the Truth that you strive to show in every post. I’m so thankful for the ways you truly seek to serve the Lord through your words and raising your family. What an amazing gift that you really show Christ to so many- many who don’t know Him. And that we are all broken and weak and only able to stand because of HIM!! I really thank you for that, and for giving us all a glimpse into who you really are!

  • Christina
    February 6, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    I think your blog has a great balance. It’s likely part of what keeps your readers coming back. Your blog was one of the fist that I started reading. It was the post where you posted pictures of Justin jumping over the girls. I thought you all looked like a fun family so I kept coming back… for inspiration, entertainment, etc. I’ve learned some fun crafts & recipes along the way too! There are other blogs that I stopped reading b/c they posted about how perfectly their lives were ALL.THE.TIME. It wasn’t real and that bored me.
    Darby doll is hysterical.
    Looks like Morgan takes after her mother’s creativity!

  • Ashley
    February 6, 2010 at 8:25 pm

    Darby, GREAT post. Couldn’t agree more. Adam and I struggle with the very same thing (well, that, and all A’s crazy ultra-conservative opinions on all things…things I’m always scared he’s going to offend any and all readers with!!!).

    You are doing a fabulous job of being transparent and most of all, pointing your readers to the One who is truly perfect. The One we should ALL be striving to emulate. Jesus Christ. Job well done, friend :-)Keep bloggin’!

  • jeana
    February 6, 2010 at 11:29 pm

    I loved hearing your heart in this post and was blessed by it. Thanks for sharing!! Love to you and your sweet family. 🙂

  • Jenna
    February 7, 2010 at 12:28 am

    Darby, I love this post. I love how real it is 🙂 My friends and I had another craft night tonight (I was the one that messaged you about our Christmas crafts) and 2 of us girls made your rice bags, which are wonderful! Thanks for the encouragement and craft ideas 🙂

  • kristen
    February 7, 2010 at 7:33 am

    hi darby – get the girl some skates…i’m a pretty laid back mama and that photo made my heart skip a beat! Also – do not worry – you seem to really portray your life in a realistic way and we all love the beautiful photos you take! It is no crime to want to remember the smiles on your sweet kids faces as opposed to the endless public tantrums, hair pulling, screaming, (i am talking about my children now – i am sure yours do no such thing :)) plus, i don’t know about you but i’m in no mood to pull out the camera when my kids are behaving less than perfect. sometimes, for a laugh, but we know it’s not always funny! OH and i’m the worse on the “wanting” thing. unfortunately the only time I am able to feel truly grateful for my life as at the misfortune of someone else..i hate this! Let me know if you discover some way to be reminded of our blessings in a less negative way….i try to see it in my children and most times i do but i have to think really hard and that’s hard to do with 3 kids voices going at once. I am rambling and kids are needing me – anyway, love the blog and keep it up!!

  • Laurie Harper
    February 7, 2010 at 11:46 am

    Oh Sweet Darby,
    Your authenticity is so encouraging. I too experience feelings of dissatisfaction and insecurity when exploring the multitude of blogs out there. I must tell you though, you are so good at telling it like it is and writing with such humility about the day to day. There are many blogs that I leave feeling like I need to step up my game, but I must tell you when I leave yours I just want to be a better mom. That is a great accomplishment on your part. This is not just a blog…it’s a ministry. Thanks for keeping it real. Keep putting that sweet husband and precious kiddos first. We are learning from YOU!
    Lots of Love,
    War Eagle!!!

  • Emily
    February 7, 2010 at 12:05 pm

    Darby, Thank you for the (always) hearfelt blog entry. I think everyone is guilty of seeing the green grass on the other side and forgetting to really appreciate the beauty in their own yard sometimes. 🙂 I always appreciate your words, which by the way, seem effortlessly perfectly written. I have said it before and I know I will say it again, your outlook on motherhood has really made me appreciate all of the joys that children bring to a home and to their parents. I am about one hundred steps closer to having a baby after following your blog and a few others I have found over the past few months than I was before. You also inspire me to be more creative and make more, buy less. I actually dragged my sewing machine out and started sewing again this month thanks to your blog. I love my rice bag thingy which I made when my back started acting up a few weeks ago… my husband thinks I’m nuts because it’s now a part of my nightime ritual. I have come to love the smell of rice ever since I made it! Thank you.

  • Jen
    February 7, 2010 at 2:49 pm

    This post speaks to me – thank you!

  • Talysa
    February 7, 2010 at 3:46 pm

    So funny you mentioned the “mall” effect. I just wrote about this over at Edie’s the other day when she mentioned things to give up for lent….if I am not careful, I can become extremely discontented with my own ridiculously blessed life in this blogosphere if I’m not careful. I can wish I was “the nester”…or even her lowly apprentice. 😉

    Anyhoo, as much as I have grown from and enjoyed having my blog friends and this whole new family of bloggers, I too have to keep perspective and know my limits…and my weaknesses.

    Thanks for the post.

    Ps…I see bendaroos!!!! Arent they great? My kids think they are the best thing since Legos! And speaking of…cute skates!

  • Courtney Walsh
    February 8, 2010 at 12:10 am

    Well, didn’t you just speak straight to my hollow heart!? I have felt that effect lately and it usually ends up in “If only I had…” and a little whining after that. You’re so right…objects on our blogs aren’t ever the full picture. Mini snapshots. I try to be as transparent as possible, but, like you, I don’t share the ugly. The bad, but not the ugly…

    I am glad I found your blog. It’s so fun to meet other Christian women who are committed to being real, and walking out their faith as best they can… even if it’s only through the blogosphere.

  • Abby Maddox
    February 8, 2010 at 8:29 am

    Such a good post…I was on a girls’ retreat this weekend and a couple of them asked about this very issue, “How does Darby do all that she does?!” I started to try and say some of these same things but didn’t want to seem like a bubble-burster 🙂 so I just said, “I have no idea, she’s amazing.” And you are, but you are real too. I hope you’re not sweating these issues, because I know God is using you right where you are, doing exactly what you’re doing. ONLY TWO WEEKS LEFT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • elizabeth
    February 8, 2010 at 11:17 am

    I have blog envy too. My friend and I talk about your blog and how we covet your life at times…..getting to stay home with the kiddos, having a beautiful house, getting awesome pictures with your camera, cooking all these meals and making creative crafts with your family. You just always seem to have it all together. It was good to hear that you struggle with the same thing though. I guess we all have “the grass is greener” syndrome from time to time.

  • Ashley
    February 8, 2010 at 3:50 pm

    Darby- This is one of my favorite entries to date. I feel quite similar to the blogosphere and the word I best like to use is “ambivalent”. I think you do a great job at being transparent to your readers. I am encouraged by the words you choose to write on your blog.

  • Holly
    February 9, 2010 at 12:56 am

    Loved this post.

  • Cait
    February 9, 2010 at 11:01 pm

    I am so encouraged by your blog. You are exactly right that the blogging world…or world in general…can get us into this “I wish” mindset. Thank you for the sweet reminder that as Christians, we are in this world but we are not OF this world. I was recently talking with someone about how I have started praying before blogging in an attempt to wrap my brain about what it is God wants me to share from my heart. It was so neat to hear you talk about this idea as well. He is the Creator that gave me this passion for writing and only through His grace am I blessed the way I am. My words should be His words. I am so glad to know that there are other Christian bloggers out there striving to take the “narrow road” of blogging. Thanks for the inspiration!

  • Meagan Hines
    March 4, 2010 at 12:54 pm

    A wise friend of mine once told me that “comparison is the thief of joy.” Just thought I would pass that along! =)